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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I am married women and my husband works in a different country and visits home only once in 3 years. Apparently I have a neighbour who is wel knwn to our family too keeps visiting our house and once over the dinner table he saw me braless over the thin gown and complimented my big large boobs. Nw he has approched me to open up the buttons and once he wants to suck my nipples hard, I too have the urge and desire but scared that it wil lead to sex? Please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): If you aren't happy in your marriage, work with your husband and either end it, or fix it.
Don't have an affair. Doing this almost always makes you worth less in your own eyes and ,all to frequently, in the eyes of the person you have the affair with.
"visits home only once in 3 years"
I wouldn't call this a marriage, but I'm not sure culture you are from. If this was me, I'd go to my spouse, if that was not possible I'd divorce, and move on to a healthier relationship. However, it would be remiss to judge you from the safety and security of a desk in the USA, where quite frankly life is a heck of a lot better than many places on earth and people have so much more.
As for this "he wants to suck my nipples hard, I too have the urge and desire but scared that it wil lead to sex"
It certainly will lead to sex.
By the way, South Africa has a terrible HIV infection rate. Please use protection when you do have a new sexual partner.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): Amazing, all male replies concentrate on the sexual side, the excitement will become overpowering and addictive,to continue the groping escapes, have an open marriage, and did you wear a thin dress and no bra!
All indicative of the over active imaginative mind of the male, as they seem pre-occupied more with the last part of this woman's question, rather the problem itself, she has no contact with her husband only once in three years, and NO one picks up on that thread, or is remotely interested as to why she lives like this - Just did she wear a thin dress and no bra, and " You and your neighbour have crossed the line so why stop"
I wonder if the would be giving such advice, if it was a girlfriend or a wife of theirs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): This has to be a wind up. No one has to be told that putting your boobs in a guys face for him to suck them hard that it might lead to sex.
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reader, stavrosg  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Agreed, the thrill and excitement will become over-powering and addictive. Even if this encounter doesn't lead to intercourse or further intimacy, it will be only a matter of time.
In the end if you decide to work on you're marriage or not, this is an indicator that the time has come to indeed make the decision.
Good Luck.
Stav
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reader, BigSambo  +, writes (21 November 2010):
Did u know that he was coming over and wore a thin dress and no bra?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): Lets get straight to the point here - the beside the question REAL issue here.
You are married in ' Name ONLY' it appears, as a marriage that has either partner ONLY seeing the other ONCE in three years, is not a marriage. Why is your husband working away so long, that visits are only once every three years, this must be some contract he's on, even the military don't have such stringent non-visiting rights as seems to be the case for your husband.
Next question, why did you marry a man who you are NOT able to have proper full-time relationship with - as you don't provide any background details, just a question with regards to your breasts and leading to sex.
I think before you decide what to do with this neighbour, perhaps you should address the problem of you married to man who basically doesn't exist in your life - yet presumably expects you to behave like a wife, or did you marry for another reason other than love, as you don't mention anything about you love, yearn or miss your husband. I feel there is a lot more going on here than just the question would suggest from first reading it.
Personally I think you need to decide IF your marriage is worth remaining in, as it doesn't seem to offer any real human bonding experiences to keep you both attached, close and loving. Why not discuss with your husband the possibility of moving to where his job is - well if you communicate that is..email..phone????
As for the last part of your question, of course it would lead to sex, I can't imagine any young woman of 26-29 would not know that a man sucking on her nipples meant anything else..So that is why I've left that part to last.
Really you need to look at your marriage first and work out what you want from it, life in general, and not pay too much attention to guys looking at your breasts..That is the least of your concern. Your marriage must be the number one priority to sought out.
Jilly
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reader, soon567 +, writes (21 November 2010):
No one going to advise is going to advise you on cheating. Three years is a long time and you and your husband need to really talk. You and your neighbor have crossed the line so why stop. Either have any open marriage, continue the groping escapes, or get yourself a toy because you’re having sex.
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