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writes: Hii have just split from my girlfriend we have a 3 year old son i love and i have 3 kids from a previous relationship,my relationships have a pattern of going the same way starts good end up bad i have a history of depression not violence i just end up so miserable life becomes un bearable together,this has happened so many times i now think it may be better being on my own,but the guilt of letting my kids down is killing me,i work sometimes 80+ hours a week look after my child in spare time run people about im a desperate man with more troubles than anyone i know what am i ment to do im 34?
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
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you are these kids' Daddy. You can't ever let them down, to them you're Superman! DO what you thik is right and best for them. Listen to your heart.
Phoebe xxx
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (8 April 2006):
 getb nhelp now you need to go and have counseilling
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reader, Lake +, writes (8 April 2006):
Depression will not go away on its own; it will only get harder if you allow it to build up. I know how you feel as I also work long hours, but as I’m single (for last 4 years) and no kids, I have only myself to deal with so I can try different activities with my spare time to de-stress. By the sound of it, your stress comes more from your worry about your kids than your love life. That’s a good sign as it means you are a good father who knows his short comings.
Break each problem into pieces rather then a whole. For example, when was the last time you been with your children? Can you do anything about this? Take a day holiday and maybe take them somewhere?
In this world, time is the most precious thing we have. No amount of money will buy us more time or undo mistakes. Sometimes we want to leave as much money as possible to secure our children’s future, but I’m more inclined to giving children good memories of their parents than a good funding.
My advice would be to spend more time with your children. At their age they need all the love they can receive. Try to find something you all enjoy and help each other to find what new hobbies you all might like to try. Encourage physical activities as it will help your children to learn how to socialise, gain new skills and remain healthy. I have the pleasure to teach 2 juniors at my martial arts club and they are a blessing to instruct.
Remember, you and your partners had a choice to have children, your children didn’t have a choice. Your first priority should be your children. Gather around you the good things you have in life and not what might be.
I’m sure you have far more experience than me in relation to family matters and such, but sometimes pain and experience of loss clouds our judgement. It is times like these that views from the outside are valued.
Best wishes mate.
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reader, bridget +, writes (7 April 2006):
 Hey there Anon..
I hope that i am able to help you as
best as I can..
Well, why dont you stop and think as to why you are depressed?
Is it because you feel that all your relationships are going the same way, then, think why they are going the same way...
Then keep going back untill you hit the one problem that has an ending...
Trust me there is a problem thats blocking you from carrying on with another relationship, and it sounds like a pretty serious one because you are now at the point where you think that you should give up on Love..
You shouldnt give up on Love, as you are depriving yourself of something you deserve (and you do deserve it).
You have kids let them learn from you and dont please dont give up on love..
Believe me, No dealing process is an easy thing its all tears and pain but the healing process well thats the moisture on the bodylotion...
Speak to your GP about how you have been feeling, the depression, and they might out you in contact with a concellor or a psychologist.
Believe me these people can help you and they are only human aswell.. Everyone gets depressed about something or someone, it always helps to have someone to talk to..
Good Luck
Jacqueline
PS Sorry about the other answer I hit the wrong button!
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reader, bridget +, writes (7 April 2006):
Hey there Anon..
I hope that i am able to pount you in the right direction..
Well, why dont you stop and think as to why you are depressed?
Is it because you feel that all your relationships are going the same way, then, think why they are going the same way...
Then keep going back untill you hit the one problem that has an ending...
Trust me there is a problem thats blocking you from carrying on with anothr relationship... and it sounds like a pretty serious one because you are now at the point where you think that you should give up on
Then when you figure that out thats when the dealing part starts...
Believe me, No dealing process is an easy thing its all tears and pain but the healing process well thats the moisute on the bodylotion...
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