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writes: I am a 25 year old single girl. I have been on a few dates with several different men. But I was set up with this guy from some friends and we have been dating for a couple of weeks. I really like talking to him. He makes me laugh and think and well makes me be myself. Well the thing is our religous preferences are totally different. I'm a Christian and he's an agnostic. Would this be a relationship to pursue or to get out?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (4 July 2006):
 My dear consider a rather shallow but useful analogy, does the colour pink go with the colour green, does jam go with spaghetti? Not really. Neither does a NON Christian go with a TRUE Christian because they clash. If you are truly a Chrstian you will see that dating a man who believes that it is neither possible to prove or disprove the existence of the Eternal God would be problematic. I mean it says in the Bible, can Two walk to gether except they be agreed? You will find it in Joel.
It may start out ok, but the fact is, if you believe in something so strongly and your fella does not support that, it will cause problems. Take care. xXx
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Hey honey!! As long as you get along just fine then what would be the problem? As long as he will still let you beleive in what you want to beleive in and it doesn't get in the way, then I can't see a problem. Best thing to do is to see how it goes, take things slowly as Drpete says, and take it from there. Hope all works out for you, take care darlin!...x
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reader, willywombat +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Why should it cause problems? People are allowed to be different and these differences very often make a relationship work. Dont try to change each other because that is when things becaome complictaed or stop working. Accept each other and each others individual beliefs and enjoy your time together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): Well I'm an agnostic supposedly. I've never dated a Christian girl before because I didn't want to get any possible headaches from them and their families in the future. I did however date a Catholic and she was really sweet. Reason we broke up was because of personal differences and not religious, as she wasn't religious at all.
As DrPete had said, just get to know the guy and see how it works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): It could be.
In the Bible it says that Christian's should marry Christian's. It does this because if you marry someone who has (hopefully) the same moral beliefs as you, and someone who is answerable to Jesus, you are far more likely to succeed as husband and wife. This is mentioned in the bible to protect you, it is in your interest.
Having said that - there are of course non-christians who share the same beliefs and values about marriage that Christians do. Get to know your boyfriends views on sex, marriage, commitment and try and found out how he has dealt with relationship problems in the past. All this will go some way to see whether or not he would be suitable for you.
Good luck with it if you decide to pursue the relationship -I'm sure no harm will come from taking thing slowly and carefully.
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