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writes:I'm a 15 year old boy and constantly find myself attracted to my male teachers???what exactly makes someone gay? I think it could be because I want to be like them not just because I like them but I have got a freidnly relationship with them all. I'm not alwasy attracted to women in the same way my friends are but I still hope theres something there. Am I in denial? Am I paranoid? Am I gay?please help Reply to this Question
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reader, youngandconfused +, writes (1 November 2007):
youngandconfused is verified as being by the original poster of the question Starting to feel like its a lost cause. I used to go swimming with my dad when I was younger and we went cycling some mornings together after that so I asked him if he wanted to do stuff like that again. He simply asked why, I didn't want to put him on the spot or make an awkward situation even worse so I told him I was bored, he just told me to do it with my friends then. I put it down to me making him take interest in me, which just wasn't fair so I took a part time job in his grocery store in hopes that he would respect me more and I guess it worked but it's so hard being the perfect son and doing everything he wants me to do, I barely see him in the shop nevermind get to talk to him. Well now that you know my dad is a manager of his own shop, maybe you'll understand how busy his life is, I know I do. Thanks for all your help but I guess I'll just have to get on with it.
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reader, youngandconfused +, writes (20 October 2007):
youngandconfused is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the responses, guess the most likely one is the father figure, I have a great father, I know he loves me but I guess after u have 4 children, the fifth is a little too much, another thing is I can barely talk to him without him saying anything along the lines of 'is your homework done?' 'get off that computer' and his personal favourite 'hurry up.' and I can talk to these teachers about near enough anything, last week my technology teacher was giving me advice on woman????
So i guess the new question is, how can I get a better bond with my father?
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reader, lboy  +, writes (10 October 2007):
 daer reader, you are obviously not in denial as you can admit that you have feelings for these teachers, the only reason to e paranoid si if you are surrounded by homophobic people, i know you may be waitin to hear that this is a phase, but im not going to tell you that as it may not be, dont be ashamed if you d turn out gay and dont feel compelled to let everyone know as soon as you admit to yorself tht you are its something about you that no-one but your lover need to know but if you want to be an openly proud gay then i give you all the backing you need but it will come with alot of bullying for a fe months if you are still in high school, i came out at school and got alot of bullying to start with but after the first month or so people start to catch on that insults about being gay are not offencive as...well ther true lol so just be yourself, and what ever that is be prod.good lucklboyxxx
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (9 October 2007):
 This does not always mean your gay.
Most teenagers go through a stage during puberty where there attracted to the same sex because they know more about it and simply, hormones! Of course, people won't admit because they don't want people to think they are bisexual or gay so when you get attracted to an oppisite sex they just panick and immeditaley question their sexuality. Speak to someone you trust about it, and let this stage pass. If it doesn't...you might be bisexual or gay, which there is nothing wrong with. Because people should accept you for who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): I suppose that if in the past you've been dressing up dolls, playing at being a nurse, trying on your mother's shoes and messing around with make up you could be 'batting for the other team'.
I'm told by a gay friend that it was something he was born with and had no control over. He saw girls as best mates rather than anything else. 'Action Man' dolls were not to his liking, whereas 'Tiny Tears' dolls were. In order not to be picked on, he didn't 'come out' until he was well into his 20's.
I wouldn't mind betting that you're at the experimental stage and your sexuality isn't quite defined as yet. You're a bit young to decide I think. Give it a couple of years or so and you'll know which way you want to go.
Phil
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