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writes:Well i'm bisexual but pretty inexperienced when it comes to meeting, reading and dating girls still, i've only had 1 girlfriend which didn't turn out so well since there was no real connection in the end and i wasn't really attracted to her just thought she was pretty. plus it kind of happened too easily and quickly.So how do i go about trying to meet a girl? How can i tell if she's really interested in me? I'm shy so it's hard for me to go up to people i don't know, but at the same time i know they're not just going to fall into my lap if i don't try. Plus i know this sounds silly, but how do i flirt with a girl? i get guys, i know how to flirt with guys n read their signals but despite being a girl myself i still find them a bit of a scary exciting mystery! Please help!
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (20 July 2009):
If you're in a big town, you can always got to a lesbian bar. Just be careful, there will likely be the entire range of gals there... fems, butches, and girls on the prowle for the fresh meat. In 24 hours would could have a girlfreind living with you as some Lesbians move really FAST (Joke: What does a lesbian bring to the second date? A: A U-haul).
Finding a circle of gay freinds will be key to getting into a community. Or you could try on line dating - just don't assume that anyone is honest until you've double checked them, talked on the phone and met in a very public place.
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reader, Hannah5066  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 There's no easy answer. I've tried almost every trick in the book. If you meet a girl and she fancy's you, you'll definitly get a signal! Don't stress about it, because you can meet the most unlikely lesbians in the strangest of places, send out the right vibes, a bit of eye contact and it'll work out.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 April 2009):
You just have to meet them in the same way you would guys. Get your friends to introduce you to people you know, join groups and just get out there.
As for flirting with girls, there is a difference yes.
Men are all about the chase, they want you to be modest and most of them are quite simple, it's quite rare to find a guy who can REALLY flirt well. We girls are far far far more into body language and meanings of words, so flirting with them is more complex and more fun in a way.
In my experience, flirting with guys is like a game of tag, they chase you, you run and giggle. Flirting with girls is more like chess, slower and more thoughtful and deeper.
The best bet for you is just to go to a place where gay people hang out and just chat to girls and see for yourself.
As you can see, from Satin's answer, (and your ex girlfriend) all girls are different, some want to form a relationship based on deep friendship, some want to just GO FOR IT, and some are in the middle and want to play the game and see what happens.
Good Luck!! xx
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