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I'm a 24 year old virgin. How do I get close to girls?

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Question - (7 October 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 7 October 2007)
A male Germany age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Like the title says im a 24 year old male virgin with next to no experiance with girls. I mean really none, not even kissing etc, also not big into partys and disco's, prefer meeting up, hanging out, going to cinema, renting dvd just chating etc...

My main problem is that I have no expereiance with girls. Have absolutly no idea how to dance etc and 1 or 2 times when a girl was flirting with me i found the whole situation more arkward than anything else: Didnt know exactly what to do and felt alittle uncomfortable when she started moving closer to me, would instinctly try to hold a "comfortabel" distance. I think im possibly afraid to let a girl get physically close to me because i expect that she'll be disgusted at how totally unexperianced and arkward i am etc (although this is more of an unconscious fear - just my attempt to explain my behaviour).

I've tried reading websites and tips etc (like studying a school subject) but that doesn't help at all. Considered asking friends for advice but can't bring myself to tell them. Really badly need advice!! I think about this fairly often and generally i end up saying to myself "just wait and you'll eventually meet a girl that you feel really comfortable with and everything will just work out". But I'm 24 now, the whole waiting doesn't seem to achieve anything.

And to make it all worse i some how ended up living in an appartment with a friend and his girlfriend (she moved in with us). So now i really think about this stuff every day and get so annoyed with myself for being so stupid etc I mean this is something that every 15/16 year old kid manages.

am really thankfull for any advice!!!

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (7 October 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntFirstly take a massage course. It will give you something to talk about, AND make you comfortable with knowing how to touch a woman.

Next I give seminars for adult male virgins to help them get to their first time. Read the reviews from virgins and those that I helped get their first girlfriends at:

http://www.franktalks.com/?content=frankseminar_amv

-Frank B Kermit

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A male reader, Tommy7 United States +, writes (7 October 2007):

You need to spend some time asking girls out on dates. Invite them to dinner, movie, bowling or anything you can do. Making friend first is what you need to do. Then if you find a girl you really like you can talk through your lack of experience. It will work out. Experimenting is how you learn. ps There are many girls who also have no experience, but they don't admit it until they get to know you well.

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A female reader, just-ask-xx United Kingdom +, writes (7 October 2007):

just-ask-xx agony auntOk, well...losing your virginity is not the very most important thing! Finding someone special is. That's the best advice I can give you. As for getting close to girls, a lot o guys have that problem, just talk about something like...movies or something, just generally get to know them, then if you feel confident, move closer. Hope this helps in...some...way...:) lol anyways, reply if you want to, love just-ask-xx

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