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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I'm 38, tall, smart appearance, go training at the gym, good sense of humour, considerate, though a little shy i am very well respected. I don't seem to have a problem getting to know women and seem to know probably more than most guys!! They all think i'm a nice person. However, as much do enjoy the fact as i know very many women and enjoy making friends with women, that's as far as i can get. I cannot get to date a single one. I ask good questions but am not cheeky or assertive. Friends say i'm too nice and women may think i'm not interested. I even get phone numbers and called but then nothing materialises from it. Though I prefer to get to know them a little first rather than asking on the first time of seeing women i've met. No matter how i build up to asking for dates the answers is no time after time. Though not desperate and don't go looking for a relationship with everyone i meet but it would just nice to enjoy female company rather than the night out with the lads every week. I meet but it all seems frustrating as i see it happen in front of me and hear about sex and relationships etc and it seems so natural for others yet i just do not get the opportunity to experience dating let alone being in a relationship.It seems so close yet so far away. What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2007): Hey I'd date you. Nice men are a rarity. There is someone out there, who will appreciate you how you are and see you as someone very special.
Maybe change the places you hang. Maybe join some cooking classes, sports league...get yourself out there more. Doesn't family usually try to set the single members up with someone available?
What about date sites?
Shy maybe coming across as disinterested and the women are limiting themselves on this quick judgement.
I find it endearing as I am very outgoing and feel for others who may not be so comfortable with themselves or as expressive. It's not a broken thing that needs fixing...it's more of a I recognize it and will include the shy and uncertain people into my life and moment in time.
38 is still young.
Don't lose heart.
Best Wishes.
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