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36-40,
*rown_ferret
writes:I feel compelled to sleep with a sex-worker at least once a week. Otherwise, my libido gets the better of me and I find it hard to focus on any task for long because of an over-active sex drive. If I go without sex for three months, I actually find myself becoming extremely irritable and aggressive. Would you consider this to be normal and acceptable in most men of my age group? Thanks for reading this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): I personally don't believe in sex addiction. Sex is very powerful, that's how. Nature intended, and if you don't have a steady girlfriend, and want sex of course you will go look for quick sex somewhere else. Men went to prostitutes for centuries, I it's normal and frankly more honest than picking up some drunk girl in a bar, or using a woman just for sex, trying to convince her that friends with benefits is a norm of behavior.Masturbation is not the same, we all know that, if it was enough, sex workers wouldn't exist, if do it yourself did the job.I really don't think that there is anything wrong with you. You are a young man and you need sex, it's very normal.and the fact that you are not out there fishing for free one night stands actually is more normal than doing it. If you are safe, wearing condoms, do what you want until you find yourself a girl.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 February 2013):
 needing to release sexual tension is one thing. the options abound, masturbation, FWB casual flings....
needing to pay a sex worker once a week compulsively is totally another.
I agree that some intense work with a good therapist can help you get to the bottom of this compulsion and end a very expensive and unnecessary expense.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 February 2013):
 I agree with Eddie here, you need help and I suggest the sooner the better.
I would actually look for a good therapist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2013): i hear you, i have the same problem and is a serious one.I'm 33 and i belive i am or i was a sex adict. i have slept with over a hundred girls - prostitutes, flings, one night stands- and it has seriously affected my skills or abilities to date some girls. i want to get laid quickly and im not willing to come along with the b.s. most girls have. i believe is a waste of time and money. with prostitues you dont have to ask them out, buy them a drink or try to impress them, i just want to get laid. Fortunatelly i met a wonderful girl and i dont have a need for prostitues anymore because i love her. however once we started dating I had a complete std test to make sure i was all right for her. i will never tell my gf about my sexual past, it's my private sex life, my life is my own and also of course no girl wants to be with some dude who has had over a hundred or a hundred and fifty sexual partners so far. Masturbation for me didn't work out and my visits with my regular girls were seriously affecting my finances. My addiction started when i was around 15 just do the math. my point of view is that if your visit with prostitutes you are impairing your abilities to date girls i would seek help immediately. wish you the best.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (7 February 2013):
 I certainly wouldn't consider your habits normal.
Most guys just masturbate: it's safer (no chance of sexual diseases), cheaper and doesn't cause people to question your character.
If you ever meet a woman that looks like a serious relationship, you will likely have to come clean with your sexual past. Your history would be a HUGE red flag to most women and most women would probably be extremely turned off by the fact you visit prostitutes.
Everybody has sexual needs, and I hope you take a look at what you are putting at risk: your health, your finances and you are probably breaking the law. If you feel that your libido is that out of control and that masturbation doesn't do the job, it is probably time to seek outside help. You may have a sex addiction.
Eddie
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