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writes:Hi guys,I'm a 25 year old women and for the last 6 months have really gone off sex. I used to be incredibly sexually active and now i am the complete opposite - I don't even have any sexual thoughts anymore. I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years and he's finding this increasingly hard, someone help! Please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): If you are using contraception, it could cause loss of libido. Try switching to a different brand or kind of contraception and see what happens. Try watching a steamy hot video alone or with your partner. Go out and buy some sexy lingerie for yourself, get a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. Sometimes getting into an exercise routine will help out, too. Your libido will return, so don't worry about it.
Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Something is lacking in your relationship. The most probable reason is the lack of love and romance.You need to fall in love again and have romance in your life.
Another probable reason could be stress or problems from work You could be over worked and tired from your work outside and inside your home.
Another probable reason could be fitness,eat more fresh fruits and vege and exercise.
Lastly , go for a check up.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 It will surprise you how many times you will go through this in your lifetime. Libidos to tend to "wax and wain", much like the phases of the moon, and the interest that you have in sex one YEAR may not be the same the next, regardless of how long you have been with your partner.
Sex, for women, is mainly between the ears. If you are feeling blah and things are a bit stagnant, perhaps a change outside of your normal lives would benefit your sex life too. Try some ridiculous dance class, join a kick-boxing club together, whatever interests and challenges you! Plan a few long week-ends in places that you haven't been - Even the bad ones turn out to bring out good experiences.
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reader, Somethingeasy  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Yeah for word, people change. Up til I was 20 I was very sexually active, now Im 24 and pretty much have gone years without sex. It irks me to think about it, but its something that you may have to go through. I find meditation helps to clear the mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): The other thing you should consider is the type of contraceptive you are using - some contraceptive pills have loss of libido as a side effect.
I think libido is fairly changeable too according to your confidence and self esteem etc. Another thing to try would be to go dating each other again, and "woo" each other. Meet in a strange place, with different names, different clothes and chat each other up! Then go back and use different positions, toys, different location or whatever turns you on. It might be a kick start you need if there is nothing else wrong.
Try having a total ban on all sexual contact, including DIY, and see if when you arent allowed to do it you want to do it more.
If there is anything you can do or your partner can do to make you feel sexy, such as a new outfit, new undies, weekend away etc, then do it!
It will come back with time.
Good luck and happy romping xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): join the club! i haven't had sex in seven months!(since me and my ex broke up)...not something i should openly say, oh well. Could it be you're too tired, not attracted to your partner in a sexual way? it happened to me, I just stopped having any sexual thoughts about him because we'd been together for two years. it got well...boring, i guess. Now i find myself wanting to have sex with him, because i haven't seen him in seven months. Maybe you have a vitamin deficiency, that usually happens too, and sometimes when you're not 100% healthy your libido just falls...like non-existent. try taking time off, if it's getting boring? so you're at extremes, very sexual, then nothing, nada, zip. maybe you feel distant from him? either that, or it all boils down to one thing...do you still want to be with this guy? is he fulfilling your desires as a woman? if not, i guess you move on. although some might disagree and say you're at that moment that all couples go through where you're so comfortable in sense and don't want sex. or dress up, try kinky outfits...do something new? maybe that might work.
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