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writes:Okay so im 25 year old female im a virgin and i've never had a real boyfriend. There have been guys that im interested or who are interested in me and i just get very protective of myself. And im the only virgin out of all of my friends and everybody always ask me if i boyfried or why dont i have a boyfriend. I feel like im a step behind everyone i feel like im never gonna have anyone that loves me besides my family and friends. How can i open myself up more? Is being 25 and still a virgin okay because i feel like its not and everybody looks at me like im a weirdo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Thanks for the advice guys it was really helpful
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Make sure you realise the important things in life...
Love
Happiness
Trust
Loyalty
etc.
It is not by the number of boyfriends you have or the sexual partners... You somewhat have the right option. Others become serial daters... numerous bf/gf's, numerous sex partners... and for most, it will remain that way.
Having that special someone for a longterm relationship is better than several small ones or none at all. If you really cant get a local bf, opt for a long distance one. It will be hard but if it fills the void you currently have... it will all be great. I know many virgins in USA who are 26-29, so you aren't wierd!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Hi there!First, youre not weird. I just lost mine two weeks ago and Im 25. I gave relationships a shot and dating and all that crap and nothin worked out. So, sometimes you have to take drastic action to get over stuff and thats what I did. Yeah, she wasnt special or someone I trust or any of that, but the fact it made sense for me to have sex ( i e been ready, exhausted options of relationships, etc)...I just went ahead and did it. I do not regret it in the least. It was a very pleasant experience and has helped me with some confidence issues and now I can finally sleep at nite. I even went thru counseling to help with the decision. My advice for you: I have underwent a few personality changes to help me adapt to society. Changes that dont happen overnite but rather experiences that said "yes, i see myself being that kind of person" I dont advise the same for you but do not be scared to re evaluate yourself and critique yourself. Like for me, I was the nice guy. Too nice. I had to strike a balance and it has helped. Overall tho, be yourself...ive had to make changes to know my true self. If people do not like the product, they can take a hike. If you do change, dont change for anyone, change for yourself and your benefit. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Don't fret! I too have never been in a relationship. Although you are older than me (I'm 20, close to 21), I know what you are going through. All of my friends and family wonder why I have never been with anybody. This just means that you want a loving relationship and don't want to be the victim of a relationship gone awry. I recently fell in love with a girl that I'm good friends with, she took my virginity and she denied me a relationship completely. This experience taught me that love hurts, no matter what. You are not a step behind, but rather on a different staircase altogether. Don't feel weird about still being a virgin, it is nothing to be embarrassed about. Losing your virginity is not all it is cracked up to be. Believe me, it's not worth it to have sex with someone just so you can say you have. Value your virginity and save it for someone you trust and love. Don't let others make fun of you because you are a virgin, tell them that they lost theirs for the wrong reasons. There are people out there who will love you if you let them in your life. Don't be afraid to get hurt though because that will drive someone you might love away. If things go wrong, then oh well, life goes on. Be proud and confident about yourself and the choices you have made, but don't be afraid to live and love because you will miss out on things in life and you will regret that later in life.I hope this helps
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