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writes: Sorry if this gets a bit long.. Ok here goes I’m 23yrs old and have been close friends with my next-door neighbours since I can remember, in fact they are more like family than friends… Anyway we moved about 3 years ago, but only 10 minutes away so I still went round like 3-4 times a week, about 7 months ago I realised that I had feelings for their 15yr old daughter and it kinda scared me that I was falling for her so I tried to forget about it and pretend that nothing was wrong but I couldn’t stop thinking about her and instead of facing the problem I stopped going round… About a month later she e-mailed me asking why I had stopped going round and that she missed talking to me and gave me her number. I rang her that night and told her that I was just busy with work and hadn’t had chance to go round.. Well she saw through the lie and asked if I stopped going round because she was flirting with me and then broke down and started crying apologising saying she didn’t mean to but she’s fallen in love with me. I was shocked to say the least and given the courage and trust she just showed by telling me I decided that I would tell her why I stopped going round and that it wasn’t her as such… After a long conversation we decided that nothing could happen and that it would be a shame to throw away a good friendship so we started to talk on the phone and I started going round again which was a little weird at first since we were both trying a little too hard to keep our distance… things were great until last month. We were all watching a film and her parents decided to go to get some food from the takeaway, we were just sat there having a giggle at the film when all of a sudden she leaned in and kissed me, I should have stopped her but I didn’t and we ended up kissing until her parents got home… I felt like a right pervert, and decided that to stop it happening again I would need to talk to her and maybe stop going round as much if at all. But before I got round to it she had a little “incident” with her diary and her mum found out about the kiss and now knows everything but instead of threatening to kill me she has told me to keep coming round and that as long as it doesn’t happen again till she’s 16 then she’s not bothered and if we want to see each other after that then that’s our choice… I don’t know what to do anymore is it even possible for a girl of 15 to been in “love” and if we did start going out when she is 16 we aren’t exactly going to be accepted into society… I love her to bits and would give anything to be with her and I would wait a lifetime if that’s what it took, but is there any point given the age gap and her young age.. any advice would be greatly appreciated because I’m very confused and scared atm
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): I just fell in love with a girl that is 16 and i am 23 and we both love eachother very much and the only bad thing is her family isn't really excepting the idea that she even likes me but we figured its our business and they will soon find out that we are in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2006): If you really like this girl, go for it. I'm 17 and I've been going out with my boyfriend who is 31 for over a year now. These relationships really can work, it just takes a lot of work to get your friends and family to accept it. Good luck!
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reader, elmino +, writes (4 July 2006):
I wondered the same thing a year ago when i asked the same question about my g/f 18 and myself 31, we're so happy together i'm so glad i took a chance when so many thought we were crazy.If you both can see past the age gap,go for it!you're not that far apart.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (4 July 2006):
 I met my fiancee when she was 15, she is now 16 and we are engaged. I am 29.
We are probably the happiest couple i know of and everybody who knows us will agree that we are totally inseperable.
Relationships like this can work, although it is other peoples opinions which put the most strain on you.
Best of luck, If you would like to chat privately, I am more than willing.
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