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writes:I'm 22 years old. I have never had a boyfriend, I have never really been on a real date. It was only a couple of months ago that I actually first (tongue) kissed a guy. It was some random guy at a party who really liked me and we talked and made out a few more times after. But because he was too short (and also his cousin showed interest in me and the situation just got weird) we eventually lost contact. Thats pretty much been the highlight of my personal life for the 22 years that I've been on this earth. I really have no idea what my problem is and why I just can't seem to find a guy who I take interest in to take interest in me. I have even tried online dating (craigslist) and it never works out because a lot of times I send my pic out and then it either goes nowhere after a little more conversation or I don't get a response. I know reading that the answer will probably just be, "well maybe you're just kind of unattractive" but I feel like that can't be it because literally my whole entire life I've always been told by men and women alike how pretty and gorgeous I am and how I should model. And I DO model, I have a shoot next month! So with that I seriously have no idea whats going on and what my problem is. I feel like I'm getting lonelier and lonelier every day and the worst part is that I can't put a finger on why I am seemingly being outcast from the dating world in the prime of my life.Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): This is gonna sound weird, but you could be thankful that you havent had too much of a romantic life already. There are LOTS of 22yo girls that have already had a string of asshole and troubled BFs, bad relationships, etc, that they will spend years and decades trying to deal with.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 So, you get guys who are attracted to you, and you are attracted to guys but the first group is never in the second group?
Now that could just be bad luck OR are you for some reason only attracted at guys who are unavailable?
And what are your standards, you turned down a guy simply because he was to short? What else do you turn guys down for? Could you be rejecting all the guys who do approach you? High standards, being picky OR maybe secretly scared at what might happen?
What exactly goes wrong? At what stage of flirting does "it" not happen.
Being pretty might not help. Men are pragmatic. No point in approaching a girl outside your class. Especially if she knows she is pretty.
What do you do to be oticed, to show guys that "yes, you can approach me". What kind of guy are you after, what kind of guy do you attract. Why would the kind of guy you don't want, not approach you.
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reader, jack20  +, writes (11 January 2010):
i feel the same sometimes but you need to look at it in different ways. who says 22 is the prime of your life? i would definitely say some women in their 40s are in their prime, so dont feel like your time is limited. anyway, you should be happy to be single! have you seen the amount of people on here talking about how unhappy they are in their relationships? you dont need to worry, because there are probably things that mean alot to you now that a relationship would put a strain on. and whether youre good looking or not i think everyone has a time when theyre fully ready to be in a relationship, so enjoy your life now! and for gods sake please dont get with someone for the sake of it , or youll have wasted 10 mins of my time writing this ! : )
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