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*milyDawn
writes:As the title says, Im having a problem. Ive been in a relashionship for a while now and I just dont seem to crave my boyfriend. He does everything for my attention, he's gentle with me, loving. But sex for me doesnt seem to be like I expect it to be.I lost my virginity when I was 18, I loved the guy I was with at the time. I would want to be with him sexually every time, anywhere. But he didnt seem to think the same, he penis barely even got errect. All he ever asked was for fellatio, all the time. There's was a point of that relashionship that it turned abusive, he would insult me and in one ocassion he hit me. He cheated on me various times, I forgave him. I gave it more chances but, he didnt turn me on anymore.After that failed relashionship, I gave my self some space and Im now dating someone. At first we had sex alot, I was his first and for now only. But as the time have passed, I dont feel it. We had sex a few days back and after he came, I got up at left. He got rather upset with me cause he wanted to please me, but I told him I just wanted him to please himself.Can someone please tell me whats going on with me? Please..This might destroy my relashionship cause we've been only a year together an I cant stand sex anymore..
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (15 June 2013):
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (15 June 2013):
 It's difficult if not downright impossible for us to teach our partners about our bodies if we don't know ourselves. You're basically expecting him to "figure you out" without helping him -at all-, and that's unfair. If you can't even bring yourself to orgasm, how do you expect him to?
The first step in good sex is knowing yourself intimately. Masturbate. Become familiar with your body and genitals, become familiar with what it takes to bring yourself to orgasm. Once you are comfortable doing that, you can teach your partner how to bring you to orgasm and then you'll enjoy sex SO MUCH MORE.
It's your responsibility to do this. You can't put the burden on satisfying you sexually 100% on your partner if you can't even do it first!
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reader, EmilyDawn +, writes (15 June 2013):
EmilyDawn is verified as being by the original poster of the question I dont masturbate at all. Never had an orgasm.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (15 June 2013):
Are you regularly having orgasms? Women tend to enjoy sex a lot more when they actually feel sexually satisfied from it.
Are you aware of the function and location of your clitoris? Do you masturbate? Can you bring yourself to orgasm?
How sexually educated are you in regards to your own sexuality and body?
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