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writes: I am 20 years old and I am in love with a man who is 40. He is now divorced with two children. he respects and doesnt do anything that i dont want to do and we also went slowly in this relationship. we arent going out but act as if we are. i dont know of i should carry this relationship or not. please help me.
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reader, Dani87  +, writes (30 April 2007):
Hi darl,
Im also 20 and my boyfriend is 36 :-) He is a wonderful guy, is also divorced and has two children. We have our things we're working through, but he treats me well, respects me, i love him a lot and believe it will work out.
Just make sure he treats you well, respects the fact that youre still young and may want to do things people our age want to. Another thing to be careful of is that he does not try to control you or put you down or even make you feel like he is superior because he is older and wiser and apparently knows more than you (even if he actually does). Most of all you need to be treated as an equal.
Another important thing is that he is totally honest with you about every aspect of his past (especially his sexual past) and that you are also honest with him about your feelings (either good or bad).
I believe our types of relationships can work out as long as there is a huge emphasis on communication and lots of FUN!! :-)
Good luck darl,
dani87
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