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male
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anonymous
writes:Hey, me and my gf are planning on having sex for the first time, we have been together for 7 months and are both virgins,we have contraception sorted and are both totally ready. Obviously she doesn't paticually want all of the really bad pain and i don't want to hurt her either. We know it will hurt abit but i want it to be as comfortable as possible or her. So here are my questions, sorry thee are quite afew-i realy wanna get this right.1) How can i make it less painfull for her?2) Wheres the best place to first have sex?3) What could i do to make it extra special for her?4) Whats the best position for first time sex so that it won't be as painfull5) How long would you say first time sex lasts for?Hope you can answer them all and help me, we are really serious bout this and want to make it memorable. Thank you.
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reader, lboy +, writes (10 May 2007):
 dear reader,
1). try your best to lube her up use your fingers or tongue to make her wet this way it will be better for you both.
2).a bed is the best place as it is comfortable spacious and warm.
3).make it romantic, don't just throw her and the bed and do it, start with a candle lit dinner or something and put candles around the room. tell her how beautiful she is and things like that.
4).do the normal position but switch it round abit let her be on top so that she can control how deep you go and how fast it goes.
5).it doesn't really matter how long it lasts as long as it is romantic and you did it for the right reasoons, if you love her it should not matter how long the sex lasts. just after make it abit more romantic, rap her in your arms and talk for a while then fall asleep together, that should make the night perfect.
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reader, Beki +, writes (29 April 2007):
 1) Make sure she's lubed up natural or not either way, because then it'll be more comfortable. Lots of foreplay
2)Bed too.
3)Do something cliche, like roses, tell her how beautiful she is and how wonderful she is, ease into it don't jump right into bed.
4)Her on top, that way she has more control how far she can go in.
5)Sorry mate depends on the situation, just make sure you cuddle and her afterwards.
Good luck
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (29 April 2007):
 1) ease into it, do a bit of foreplay first, use your fingers and/or tongue to prep her a bit, and go slow when you actually have sex.2) Bed would be best bet, comfortable and warm :P3) Make an evening of it, candle lit dinner, something romantic, maybe even put some candles around your room...so your not doing it in the light, but not in the dark, make it more comfortable.4)i would guess just the normal position, over and under, with you on top, just make sure you dont go too fast or too deep, incase you hurt her more than nessisary5) all depends on the person, even if its quick youll last longer the more you do it, wouldnt worry about that at this point, taking someones virginity is more than how long you can last or how good you are :P as long as its special.obviously this is what i would do, proberly better for it to be only you in the house :P, dunno what your parents are like, weather or not they will give you the house to yourself, if not then i cant really suggest much more. Hope it goes well, may it be memorable, for the right reasons :)
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