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writes:When I meet my current boyfriend i was 17 and he was 34 i am now turning 19 and he is turning 36 i live with him and have for 11 months. He has a 5year old son and its hard because he only has him half the time. whenever his son is over i feel really jealous because he gets to sleep in our bed and i sleep on the couch. its really hard when he gets angry with me when his son is over. it breaks my heart because when he is upset he wont say i love you back to me but still acts in the same playful manner towards his son. I love him but i don't know what i should do we have him four two long weeks and then a whole month this summer i don't know if i can handle it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): Gina has good points and yes you just have to put up with it. But I know EXACTLY how you feel because I am in a very similar situation. I'm 21 he's 35, ive been living with him for 16 months. Except he has a daughter who is 13 or 14 she is closer to my age than he is! the thing is you just can't help feelings of jealousy and insecurity it just happens naturally because I think the age gap between our partners reflects we seek an older partner to make us feel secure and protected and when we see them with there children they may have had with past partners we feel indifferent because you all of sudden think OMG he has a kid? thats way ahead of my time I'm not even thinking of having children anytime soon and he already has a 5 yr old? or even worse in my situatiion a daughter in her teens? Also because they are at a different stage in their lives than we are so we find it hard to understand therefore we feel jealous or insecure. It sucks it really does I don't know what to do sometimes too. It does feel awkquard and weird indeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): It could be he has him in the bed to try and make up for something, like not being around all the time. But five is old enough for the boy to sleep on his own.
You can't treat a child the same as an adult though, so try not to be upset when he shows his anger to you but not to his son.
You don't say how well you get on with his son. It could be he needs to reassure his son that he is loved as much as you. Could you do something to build a really good relationship with his son, ok you're not his mother but he could be a little friend to you and you could enjoy that.
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