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writes:I am 18 have just done my a-levels and have found out that i am 7weeks pregnant, i really want to go to uni and i dont know if i can or not now?. I am definitley keeping the baby, because i dont believe in abortion and my bf wants me to keep it also, i agree with this. But i dont know how to tell my mum or how i will be able to afford it. Xxx
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reader, Dandylion_x +, writes (21 June 2008):
Dandylion_x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks alot for all your comments! My bf wont leave me we've been together for 4 years, he proposed on christmas day and is very exicted at becoming a dad!. I hope everything will work out, but i will make it work. I know my mum will kick me out and scream and shout, but its my baby and i couldnt abort it. Xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): God Bless you for not getting an abortion. A baby is a miracle! You need to tell your parents right away they may seen upset at first but they are your family and love you so they will get over it and want to help you with the baby. You should be able to get some sort of assistance from a program. In Ohio we have a program called wic that helps mother's with formula and pampers. You should have a similar welfare program that can help you. Also the babies father also should help and be a part of the babies life. Even if you two don't end up together I hope for the babies sake you can get along. Don't worry you will be fine and you will be supprised how much your family will help out. God Bless and enjoy being a new Mother!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): First off, congratulations and well done for being so brave. I think the first step is telling your parents. Once that is out the way it should be a great weight off your shoulders because you will have more help and support. Then I think the best idea is to contact the university you have been accepted to, ask to speak to someone who deals with student support, explain the situation and see what is available to you. You could maybe get a deferred place, so you can still go just in a year or two. I think some universities have daycare/creche type things... there are arrangements that can be made if you are a student with a child and you would also be entitled to higher grants/loans etc. It's best if you tell your parents first though as they could help you sort out uni and childcare and money etc. Good luck hun! xxx
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Well i congradulate you on continuing to go to universety.
The problem being that you now have a kid and a financial problems only a few months away. My advice would be to let your mother and father take care of it uring the school days while you pick it up after words and care for it then. That way the baby has a close family bond. (One of the most important things in a house hold)
Firstly i would tell the parents and tell them that you want to go to universety not only for yourself anymore. But because you can give the child a better and easier life when its all done.
Now I'm not saying it'll be easy, It sure wont.
The baby will cry when your trying to study sleep or write a report. he will probably throw up on your homework at least once. And he will require much attention durring the course of a day. You will probably lose sleep and you will become tight on funds. But if you can drudge through all of that for the rest of universety then you will live a much happier life.
Also, the boyfriend might leave, this is almost predictable. But if he swears not to leave then you might want to ask him for a ring to prove so. making finaces a little easier and less stress to be on your mind.
~Hope This Helps~
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I was in you situation, exept I was 19, and I share the same opinions on abortion as you. I had the baby, made it work, and when my son was old enough, I hired my mother to watch him and I went to college. Fortunatly, it is never too late for school. For some new mommies, a baby becomes her greatest accomplishment, and she is perfectly content with being just that. Your partner is now obligated to try and get a good paying job, to help support you and the baby. You may also work, but toward the end, you might not want to.
When I told my folks (which was an extreemly hard thing to do) I just called them and came right out with it. Realisticly, there isnt much they can do about it, and once they did their little lecture, they were actually very excited and supportive. Since then my mother and I have become very close. I just rip it off like a band-aid, get the news over with so we can all move forward and focus on the new precious one. It's a blessing, congradulations!!!
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