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writes:Hello my name is Jane and I am 18 years old. My parents are from Nigeria and I was born and raised here in Alabama. I am 17 weeks pregnant and my parents want me to get an abortion. I don’t want one, so they are going to kick me out next Saturday. I have nothing, no job, no money, and I am a senior in high school. I have a boyfriend, but we are trying our best to find jobs and work this all out. I have nowhere to go and I need guidance and help. What do I do and where do I go? I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Seventeen weeks puts you firmly in your second tri-mester and abortions this far along are illegal. I would check into Cary Grants answer from here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): I really feel for you. I've been in a similar situation and I had to have an abortion that I did not want and it is the biggest mistake of my life.Please take time to consider what you do as the guilt and regret you may feel after an abortion is unbearable. Your parents love you and want the best for you but you have to try and explain how you feel and also take into consideration how they feel and why they maybe saying this. It is not something to be rushed but you also have to bear in mind the time limits you have to get an abortion. If you want the baby then fight to keep it, talk to your teachers, friends or other family members for help. Do whatever you have to. I wish had. I listened and did as my parents and boyfriend had wanted and now I feel empty and alone and will live with the regret that I didn't fight for my baby as a mother should do. You must be all over the place and going through such a hard time but stay true to yourself and try and make an informed choice about your future. Don't take in to account emotional blackmail. This is your life and your baby and your choice, whichever way you choose. Whatever you do good luck. You will be in my prayers x
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 I spent a bit of time looking for services in Alabama directed at teen mothers and didn't find much. If you are considering adoption, you might contact: Lifeline Village Maternity Home205-967-0811 Birmingham1-800-875-5595Christian residential care facility for pregnant, abused, neglected and at-risk girls and women. Along with professional counseling, medical care, and legal assistance, Lifeline provides a safe and secure home for those young women of any age who need a place to live during their pregnancy and who plan to place their unborn child for adoption.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 I'm so sorry that your parents feel the need to kick you out. I think it would be worth one last chance talking to them and telling them how you feel. Explain to them that you want a future with your boyfriend but that you are both struggling at the moment. Tell them you do not want to kill your unborn child and show them how scared you are about the fact that you are going to be homeless.If they still dont see sense then you should speak to a teacher in your school or a trusted adult. Am sure there must be a group that helps teenage mothers come to terms with things and helps them out. What about your boyfriends family? How have they taking the news? Could it be possible that they will let you stay with them until you can both get on your feet?
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