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writes: oh my gos i cant belive im doin this ......ok iv bin best friends with this guy for ages well just over a year and i can tell him every thing you no all of my girly probs and every body at first thort something was goin on just coss hes a man and im a girl and iv really fallen for him and i think he likes me in the summer i didnt see him for six weeks and it really hurt me cos i missed him and next time i saw him i just wanted to be with him but then he seemed to be pushing me away but then we became close again and he told me about how much he missed me and at some point it seemed like we was going out you know tell each other that we loved one and other and huggin and holdin hands but theres a few reasons we cant be together well mainly cos of age im 17 and hes 37 and oh its all just really complicated cos theres no possible way we could be together cos hes my old dance instructor and it just wouldnt be rite but i really really like him and im scared that if i tell him i'll make total fool out of myself i really want help coss i dnt no wot to do
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reader, mystify +, writes (4 January 2006):
 age is not an issue in the question of love , that unless one of the people involved makes it an issue, if this guy has made it an issue then talk to him about what you both want he may simply think that you might want differant things the talk may confirm this or it may wash away his fears, if he still feels he cant get involved suggest seeing how you both feel after youve turned 18.
i hope things work out for you both
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2006): hi i'm a 39 year old male, and have been seeing my girl friend of 20 year old for sometime. we have so much opposition its unreal, but we are in love and no-one can do anything about that. I love her so much and we really have to take a blind eye to comments of people. I have 2 friends who married 1st met when they were 16 and he 36. now they have been happily married for 5 years with 2 lovely children and there marriage is probably one of the strongest i know. and they told me this has come because of so much opposition they had come closer together. after there families AT 1ST had nothing to do with them. It took people at least 2 years to except them as a couple.
But i must say first just know that you are both firstly really in love with one-another(and this may take time). and even then take things step by step and dont rush into anything you might regret.
but good luck to you
keep him as a friend 1st and tell him what you think about him be honest with him
best of luck
ps if its REAL LOVE NOTHING WILL STOP THAT EVEN THE SMALL MATTER OF AGE
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): Ok this guy knows what he's saying. Your probable not the first to do this to him so just listen to him. Also I'd like to warn you to watchout for him like if when you turn 18 he's suddenly like really caring and all that I'd advise you to see if he's true about his feelings for you.
I'm sure you can find a guy your age, and if you can't your just not letting them come to you.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (27 December 2005):
 At 37 I think he is right to be pushing you away. I am not a huge fan of age differences like this, especially when the older male was once an instructor of yours. At no time would I want one of my daughters involved outside of the dance studio with the dance instructor. Judging by the lack of punctuation and correct spelling in your question, I feel that you are probably not mature enough to handle a relationship with someone that much older than you. If I were you, I would not tell him my feelings for him. I would get out and try to meet someone slightly younger. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): Isn't that illegal and you shouldn't be putting him in that position. Wait another year.
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