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writes:ok so me and J are doing perfect in our relationship. but i am only 17 and he is only 16 and jus recently i found out i am pregnant... will our relationship go downhill? will he leave me for another girl again? will he continue to smoke weed even though i told him tht he will lose me and the baby if he does? somebody please help. im not sure wuts going to happen to our relationship. im so scared of losing him or him cheating on me. i dnt wanna have this ruin his life or our relationship :'(... Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Then prepare to take care of this baby without him. If he does keep his word and shows effort enough in taking care of both of you, then that's excellent and you can slowly start trusting him again but if he doesn't, talk to your parents, make plans, prepare yourselves. Are your parents willing to support you? You are still in school right? So most of the time, It'll be your parents watching over the child. Unless you give it up for adoption but I'm guessing that isn't what you want to do. Don't let it become a habit to leave your baby with your parents. You are its mother so YOU have to take care of it. It'll be hard work but you aren't alone at least, just calm down and try not to be too afraid of it, first of all because stress isn't good for the baby, secondly, you need a clear head and fear of the future isn't going to help you. Hopefully your boyfriend realizes what a huge responsibility this is, I wouldn't place too much faith in him though. Try to focus on the baby and not whether or not he will stay with you. I know it's hard but you'll make it through this.I hope that helps.
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reader, angelc +, writes (1 May 2011):
angelc is verified as being by the original poster of the question he cheated on me and left me for her a long time ago. and yes my parents know and he SAYS he will be here for me through it all but im afraid to trust him. it would not be the first time he has let me down... im just so scared to trust him its not even funny. i am stuck and dont know what to do :(
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (1 May 2011):
First of all, do your parents know that you are pregnant? If they don't, I suggest you tell them immediately.
He is only 16 and boys that age seldom find maturity enough to take something this large into heart. Have you discussed this with him at all and asked him to make these changes? Have you asked him if he is willing to go through this with you? Hopefully he can muster decency enough to least try his hardest to take care of you and the baby.
I'm pretty concerned with the fact that you asked "Will he leave me for another girl AGAIN?". He doesn't sound like the type of boy you can trust. When you mix responsibility with raging hormones and an immature mind, there is no telling just how trustworthy he really is. I know its a horrible thing to consider but for your sake and for the sake of the child you carry, consider it anyway. Talk to him about it but give him time to think, it is a big responsibility after all. Good luck.
I hope that helps.
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