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writes: Me and my boyfriend have only been together for 4 months and im 16 and pregnet! I dont no if im ready to have a baby but he rele wants one he is 18 and has lived his teen life and mine has just started but i no that i want to be with him but im afraid that im goin to keep the baby and he will leave me. I no he loves me but things can change. So im just wondering what i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 Forget your guy for a minute and think about you. Do you want this baby? Could you go through with an abortion, or even put the baby up for adoption?
Being pregnant is scary, like another person on here I am 6 months pregnant and am 21 and I have the whole am I going to be a good mum, can I support our child, do I really want a child????
They are normal fears to have according to my midwife. You need to think about if it is your hormones or if you seriously don't want a child. Yes the child may take a part of your life away but you can still go out, and go to college and stuff like that. My sister has a 9 month old daughter and juggles a part time job aswell as doing musical shows.
You and you guy need to have a serious chat about what you both want. Don't get pushed in to keeping the child just because he wants it or threatens to dump you if you dont keep it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): I am 16 years old and i am pregnant... i would never think about abortion even though i live a poor life. Me and my boyfriend who is only (15) did not plan this but we laid and bed ..we made this little boy that is inside of me and we are more than happy. I learned you got to live with your actions. I am six months pregnant and feeling my baby kick is the greatest feeling in the world..Im not trying to tell you what to do but please dont get a abortion.. you will live your life with regret when you get older and have one. If you feel you are not ready then you just got to learn to be. I would not advise having a abortion becasue in my opinion that is murder. Maybe give it up for a adoption at least it will have a life that way.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Why do YOU have to raise the baby, if he wants it so bad let him raise the baby after it's born, you can have visitation rights.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): look hunni, i'm 13 and i dunno if i should keep my baby. but think about that lil baby, not your bf. he is going do what he's going do. think about that lil baby.
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reader, NenaUnique  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 hahahahaha you lost your virginity had unprotected sex and made a baby..thats what you get for having sex at a young age..im a 16 year old *virgin*
hope you learn from your mistake..;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): well 1st you need to decide what you want to do with your life because having kids can tie you down so much and at your age its hard, i was a mam at 15 and im now 29 i wish id waited although it was a mistake i love him but it put a hold on my life and i had a great deal of support from family but it comes down to you at the end of the day to look after it, none of you have lived your life yet you got years to have kids and in 3 yrs time you may not even be with this person , but hey who knows when the right time to have kids is thes no certain time just when you feel ready but i think your so young think this through carefully its a life long decision and its hard when your young you cant just pass it on its a life long job being a parent but its also rewarding at times i wouldnt swap my children for anything i love them dearly i waited 8 yr before i had another onei just wish i was more carefull when i was 15 good luck in what ever you decide xxx
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reader, blondebabe123 +, writes (6 January 2007):
heya i think you should keep the baby because when your older you will be angry at yourself because it happened to one of my sisters and now that she has got the baby shes really happy and she has made a life for herself even though she still 17 she cn still be a teenager and live the life and also be a wonderful mum and if u do decide to keep it im sure ull make a brilliant mum x x x x
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (6 January 2007):
 Hey, girl! Don't panic, whatever you do! Teen pregnancy is TOTALLY scary, and happened to one of my friends. She went through with the pregnancy at age sixteen with her boyfriend (17), and now they have a beautiful, GORGEOUS baby boy named Jaimy. He's amazing and sweet. They're still together and getting married soon. A baby is expensive and your parents will have to help. I know that if I was 16, I'd be frightened to head to to tell my parents, but it's necessary. Perhaps you and your boyfriend should have a family meeting which consists of both of your families. I'm against abortion, and I just want to put this thought into your head: You're only pregnant for the first time once. Technically, the first baby carried to term will be your second child. And abortion is something that is heavy on the mind. Good luck, and PLEASE enjoy your life, no matter what comes your way! -Carrie
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): 16 is a little young to have a baby, you have to think about what u want to do with ur life, do u want to travel, go 2 collage or uni, go clubbing, go on holliday with friends and have time with ur bf on ur own. if u want the baby then u will know about it, u wnt even have to think and dnt just keep it cuz ur bf wants it, u r the one that has to give birth to it and give up ur life as a teenager to become a teenage mother. having a baby at ur age is difficult to handle u have money to think about and if u and ur bf are seriouse. But all of that won't matter cuz if u want that baby then do it cuz nothing else matters the baby is ur baby and u need to do what's best for u and ur baby.
Good luck x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): I just found out I'm pregnant too. Thankfully, my boyfriend and I are on the same page about what we want to do. However, sweetie, the decision is up to you. If you don't feel ready, you don't feel ready. It's a crappy thing to say, but guys can get out of the real responsibilities of having a child too easily.
He's not done with his teen life - for goodness sake, he can't even legally drink yet. His real wild years are just about to begin. For the financial consequences of having a baby, check out this website. It'll give you a lot of information on the realistic costs, so you can know what you're getting into.
http://moneycentral.msn.com/content/CollegeandFamily/Raisekids/P150437.asp
Think about this long and hard. You know what's best for you. Go with your gut instinct. If your gut says "have this baby", then get ready. If your gut says, "I'm not ready", girl, you're not ready. Wait until you are and then you can explore the option of having a child.
It's up to you and you alone.
Good luck, my heart goes to you.
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reader, jessekk69 +, writes (5 January 2007):
 hey i was 16 when i fell pregnant with my first child. when i told my ex i was pregnant he didnt take it as well as yours is, he hit me around threatened to kill me then he did a runner and decided to stay with his parents the other side of the world. (ive never heard from since, i dont know if hes even alive and i dont really care)anyhoo i was lying on my bed one night and i felt MY baby kicking around an it was so amazing. i decided right there and then i was going to keep him, i loved him from that moment i felt that first kick. i told my parents a the took it really well and they were happy to hear i was keeping him. adoption wasnt an option (im adopted and have funny feelings towards it.) and abortion wasnt a option ( i had one when i was 13 when i fell pregnant when i was raped) any way to cut a really long story short i met someone new and he want to be corey-james' (my son) father he was there for the birth and been there everyday since. (corey-james is going to be 2 in april and my second child mylor will be one in June. we are also trying for another) im now happily married to the same man i own my own buinesses and my own house with 2 perfect children maybe 3 ssoon and im only 18. what im trying to say is. forget about your boyfriend for a moment and what do you really feel about your baby. yes your young but that doesnt mean anything. when you know what you feel about your baby i think you'll make the right decion for you. sorry i babled. hope this helps. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): You're right, things can change very quickly, I'm glad you can see this,
He thinks that because he's 18 he has lived his "teen" life? I don't think so, I'm afraid. People can spend their entire 20's enjoying life, some people don't even feel mature enough to have children when their in their 30s!
At 18, he is barely out of childhood and only just experiencing adult life. It's the same for you, he is no more mature than you are.
Whether or not you go through with the birth has to be down to you and you alone. It is highly possible he will not stick around to be the childs dad, or be a good father, or partner to you. You need to make this decision on what you think is best for you, and your child, if you decide to be a mother.
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