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writes:Hello! I am 16 years old and the guy I love is 19. We met a year ago at my youth group (church). We hit it off as soon as we met. He saw me at my worst and still thought I was beautiful. We will have dated for 4 months on March 14 2011. We have been dating behind my parents back this whole time. We tried once to get them to let us be together or give it a shot...when I was 15 and him 18, but they hardly knew him so said no. Well they know some things about him because my brothers are friends with him. He has a rough past but he is doing better and that’s his past. In the months we have been together we have split for a couple days, and gotten back together like 4 times. We see each other twice a week...if that. We can honestly say we love each other and it was love at first sight. There is no sexual activity besides kissing, and we are waiting to have sex. He wants my first time to be special, and not just thrown away, so we are definitely waiting till the right moment and when I’m ready. But we really want to talk to my parents and get them to let us date. So I guess my questions are : 1) Should I talk to my parents ASAP? 2) How should I talk to them? 3) What do I do if they say no and ground me from communicating with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have googled it, and its only really illegal for us if there is sexual stuff with us. which there is NOT, we know how much trouble it could cause him...he doesnt wanna go to jail and i dont want him to so we are waiting. and we already tried to get my parents foever ago to allow us to try and they wouldnt. they already know i used to like him they just dont know i still do and we are actually together. otherwise, your plan would of been genius 3 lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): In all honesty you could cause alot of problems for this man by outting any type of relationship other than friendship. You are way underage for him and that is illigal. If you have any type of sexual relationship with him in the next 2 years, he can be charged with rape, and his entire life will be ruined.I would introduce him as a friend, and after spending alot of time together, he would be your best friend, which is actualy great, because thats how a good relationship starts anyways. It would also allow your parents to see a relationship grow, and as they would of met him as your friend, they would have the opportunity over the next few years to see a relationship change, blossom, and they will be able to see how much he cares for you.
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