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writes:Im almost 16 my boyfriend is 17. We've been together quite a while now and both our familys seem to approve. However my boyfriend is having abit of problems at home and is soon getting his own flat. I have also been having a bit of trouble with my step dad for the past year.My boyfriend asked me too move in with him we can aford it and everything we've worked out the finances and we would still both be continuing education so im not throwing my life away. i've kind of hinted to my mum about and and she has recently been teaching me different house wife type skills eg cooking, cleaning , washing. So i dunno if this is her way of showing she's ok with it. I'd still be in close contact with my family and probably see them every week. Do you think its a good idea? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): Sorry hunny but I think you are too young and you don't realise how difficult it is to manage your own finances at that age. What works out on paper doesn't always work out in reality.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 August 2007):
 If thats what you want to do, then you can only try, i happen to think that you are in a better position because you are not married and i think living with someone before you make any definate commitments is a very good idea as you never really know anyone properly until you live with them.
At least then if you decide you can not live together, then it will not be as messy to get out of.
I would say though, rather than try and guess how your mum feels about it, talk to her and ask her if she is ok with it and tell her that it would be nice to get some input on the whole idea, this will also then show her how mature you are being about the whole situation.
Take care.xx.
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reader, myp  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 My nother did this when she was 16 and stayed with the guy for 5 years, My english teacher did this also so its not unusual. Its up to you, if it feels right go for it, jus make sure if things dont work out u still have a place at home. I understand what rhythmandblues2 is saying also, u dont want to be with him jus to live together or because u feel obligated, make sure hes right and if u feel ur relationship is going down hill then leave regardless of the financail situation, ur emotional well being should be a top priority like #1 on the list.
best of luck
-Myesha
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): No, I really don't. When you move in with your boyfriend without the commitment of marriage, you are leaving yourself open to be taken for granted, a relationship of convenience will ensue, and you will feel a huge loss of identity (who you were before the relationship) by cohabiting with this boyfriend. It simply playing house and not about commitment and love, don't do it, stay independent for as long as you can, this guy might not be a good fit in 3 years or 5 or 10, if you move in with him the relationship will have a momentum of it's own, without the two of your hearts growing in love together independent and strong.
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