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writes:I am 16 an stil a virgin, i have been offered to have sex loads and loads but the more i get asked the harder it is to say no, i wanna know what its like NOW yet i wanna save it for my first true love whoever that may be. I feel so pressured seems as all my mates are having sex and are 15, they just assume i have had it too but i know i haven't and it is really haunting me, plz help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): girl its okay. i understand. i am in the same situation. im a virgen and sixteen. but i wanna have sex. my friends have all had sex to, and i do kinda feel a lil pressured. but i only wanna do it cuz everybody says it feels good! all i can say is. only do it when your ready. i think im ready now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): Hi there sweetie.Im 15 and felt the exact same way you did when I hadnt found the right guy I had been searching for. But I recently just did and lost my virginity about a month ago to a wonderful guy i know im going to be with for a very long time, and im so glad i waited. Dont be pressured into having sex because everyone else may have already had it before you or your anxieous to have it. Wait for someone your going to feel conforatable with and you have a relationship with. You may want to know what its like now, but its gonna feel like shit with someone you dont care about, you dont want to regret your first time. Its no rush to lose your virginity, just wait till that right guy comes along and trust me, you'll be so happy that you waited.Best of luck.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Stick to your guns missy! You're doing amazingly. There's absolutely no rush to lose your virginity and believe me, when you meet someone you love you'll be glad you waited. Forget what your friends are saying. A lot of stuff that's said about sex at your age is all lies. They don't want to be the only one who hasn't done it so they pretend they have etc. I bet only about half of your group have actually had sex. The average age is 17 and many people are a lot older than that. In the meantime why not find out as much as possible about safe sex and contraception? If you do this you'll be clued up to deal with anything they throw at you and you'll be ready to go when you meet your Mr Right.
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reader, mum2be +, writes (6 February 2007):
Love, i am 15 and 29 weeks pregnant. I think you should definately save your virginity to someone who you are not going to regret losing it to!!!
Don't feel pressured into sex, it is something you need to feel comforatble about doing, and you need to be sure that you want to give your virgity away.
When you do feel ready for sex, make sure you are happy enough with your partner to talk about contraception, coz i'll say now, being pregnant ain't easy!!
Be strong and proud, my sweet, and save yourself for your perfect man!
xxx
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 And by the way, there was another thread on the importance of virginity which I think that you might benefit from reading:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-virginity-important-and-how-old-were-you.html
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reader, dragonette +, writes (6 February 2007):
If it's any comfort to you, I was 19 when I lost it and I think that if I had done it before that I might have been too young to emotionally deal with it.
I think that when it comes to sex (any time, not just the first time), if you feel pressured: don't do it. It needs to feel natural to you and it has to be your decision, not the result of peer pressure.
Be true to yourself. Don't fall for the old "everybody else is doing it"-thing.
Sex is a bit like strange foods. If you eat shrimps for the first time and you pick and bad restaurant: they won't taste very good and they will give you food poisoning, so it's going to take you a long time before you try shrimps again and it won't be with the same enjoyment that you would have had if you had eaten shrimps at a good restaurant the first time.
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