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writes:i am 15, and i think i am pregnant. i am goin to do a test tomorrow, i am scared in case i am cause i still have my whole life ahead of me, but i dnt think i could abort the baby, i cant talk to anyone about it, plz help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 I know you've probably heard this a lot but, I feel I must re-state that: the pull-out method does VERY little to prevent pregnancy, if birth control pills aren't taken correctly pregnancy is inevitable, and condoms should be used WITH the pill for better prevention and protection against STIs. Abstinence is the only 100% way to prevent disease and pregnancy. Now, take a deep breath and calm down. I suggest you visit a Planned Parenthood OR buy a pregnancy test. But, you should know that they can sometimes read negative if you take them too early. If you've had a missed period, take the test. If you're just going on a feeling, wait. At your age, you really need to see a proffesional nurse or doctor. If you are pregnant, go to a counselor as they can better advise you as to what your options are. And of course,your parents should be aware. If you're mature enough for sex, you should be mature enough to tell your parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): I just thought I was pregant, I was 2 weeks late and had loads of the symptoms. But I took a test and it said negative. If you've used contraception you should be fine. If you havnt... well its a risky business to be messing about with someones life.
Anyway just calm down and take a test so you know. If you are, you have 3 choices; abort, adopt or keep it.
Just so you know, if your under 12 weeks pregnant, the 'abortion' is basically taking a pill to cause you to miscarry. Any later than that and its a surgical procedure. If you feel you cant abort (I dont think I could either) then the other option is to give it up to a loving couple. If you have an open adoption you get to pick the couple and get photos and letters. Its always gonna be a hard decision, but you dont even know if your pregnant yet, it may be a false alarm! Keep us updated :) x
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reader, calmextrovert  +, writes (29 September 2010):
Try very hard to think positively. Why do you think you are pregnant? How late are you? Eitherway, you'll know tomorrow and hopefully you can breath a sigh of relief. If not, there are places that are free that you can go for counseling to decide what to do and how to tell your parents or adults in your life. Update us tomorrow and we'll go from there.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 I think you need to calm down until you know for sure. Once you've taken the test, you will have a better idea about what you're facing. You'll have two possible outcomes. I hope that even if it is negative, you'll seriously consider how scared you are right now the next time you're thinking about having sex.
The decision you're facing is not an easy one. I can tell that you don't take it lightly. That's all the more reason why you need to talk to someone. It can be a councelor if you don't feel comfortable telling friends or family. But you need to get a grip on your feelings and it will be nearly impossible to do that without help. Unfortunately, the help you'll need is a little beyond the scope of this website.
Again, wait to freak out (I know, too late) until after you've taken the test. I'm hoping it is negative and you'll use this scare as motivation to make better decisions in the future. I'm hoping for the best.
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reader, cindy 15 +, writes (29 September 2010):
 i have a friend who has a baby and is the same age as you. i know its scary and im not going to pretend how i know how it feels, but in no way i thought that my friend ruined her life beacuse of the child that she has. i were you i would be scared too but i dont think people online are going to help you here. you need a person that will support you for example the babys father your parent - are they ok with it? - and most inportantly are you to go through pregancy and birth i hop everything works out for you you need to talk to someone other then people online but to your family
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