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writes:ok so i just recently found out that the girl i like is 12 i am 15. i didnt really care at first but now its really big. we do band together although shes in middle school and im in high school. shes really funny, smart, cute. she just makes me happy when im around her. so i told her i liked her and its been 1 day, i found out her age yesterday, im just looking for advice because i dont want to make things akward between us. Reply to this Question
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (26 October 2010):
Okay I don't think any of the answers about leaving her alone are correct. I'm sorry but I was just 12 when I got with my boyfriend who was 15 at the time and we've been together for 2 years now, no on and off or anything, straight up-2 years. I think you should try it! I mean, see how it works out. It's not that bad and it's not illegal so honestly, just give it a shot. Don't leave her alone, you didn't say she felt uncomfortable or anything so I don't see anything wrong with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): She is only 12 you need to leave her alone and you probably dont like her probably just like being around her that is almost always the case well if you do let her get more mature and if u want just be friends with her and wait til she's at least 8th grade and i hope your not thinking of having sex with her you guys are to young and if your like 18 and shes younger you could be charged and alot of times the gf gets mad and holds that against you or actually tell think about it you need to be dating someone your own age or older but not to older jajaj im 15 and go out with 18 yr olds but try to stay under that so good luck with that little gurl she still doesnt knoe about sex and what it's really like you probably knoe a lil bit she's still a baby think bout it she was 11 barely turns 12 i dnt even like to date guys under my age i feel wrong no 14yr olds but make a smart choice
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reader, hismrs +, writes (14 October 2010):
 I'm on the fence about this one. You no doubt, think about sex - you're at that age. She on the other hand is no where near the age for sex. You probably should be dating someone nearer your own age. See, if you were 18 and she was 15 it wouldn't be so bad. You're just caught at an awkward age for dating younger girls. Maybe if she were at least 14. I wouldn't say "stay away from her". But you can't date her.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 October 2010):
 3 years isn't bad, don't fret over that. My husband and I are 5 years apart...so when he was a senior I was in 8th grade sounds rather bad doesn't it? I will say once you get past 19 or so age doesn't matter..that way you're surely legal. Which I will point out neither of you are legal age of consent for sex so I would wait till both of you are of age, if she's under you could be charged with statutory rape. Something to think about since you are going through puberty. Another thing I'll point out is your friends may razz you because your girlfriend is in middle school. But who's to say it won't work? Think about what I said and relax it's only awkward if you make it awkward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): you should follow your heart and do what is right but dont go too far with her because she might be too young for someone of your age. She might want to wait a while for a proper relationship!!! xxx i hope this has helped you because i have been in that dilema beforeXXXX
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reader, manikblue  +, writes (14 October 2010):
She is only 12 and you 15, so you are both pretty young. It is fine to be friends with her but you sound like you want to be more than just friends !! 3 years at your guys age is a big gap!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): 12 is far too young to be embarking on a relationship. You may think you really like her, but you ahve to be realistic here. She is a child. I do think you should get thoughts of a relationship out of your head yes, you can be friends with her and see where you are at in a few years time, but for now look for girls your own age. Its honestly for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): I remember being 15, at that age it's a huge difference as I'm sure you realize as your concerned about this. She really is just a child, leave her alone. She's too young for a relationship.
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reader, breath_in +, writes (14 October 2010):
 A Lot of people say age doesn't matter in a relationship but in this case it seems really tricky to say it doesn't i understand a 4 yr difference may not be that big of a deal but .. 12 shes way to young for you son. i hate to say this but A lot of problems may develop concerning your age and her age with her parents . shes still a little girl you should let her develop a little more and mature right now shes young and your starting high school where there will be plenty of girls to spark your interest .
i would say for you and her to be friends and wait perhaps till shes in high school to date and not still in middle school .
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reader, UnderageMonstrosity  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 You like her, good. As a friend! Don't get all awkward or anything but the crushing needs to be backed off of, until you're a little older, at 15 you should be having a blast, and not caring about a lot of things, at most she'll feel awkward around your friends, you wont see each other at school, you'll notice other girls, she's probably JUST hitting puberty.
Relax and be friends and might I suggest finding someone closer to your age?
-UnderageMonstrosity
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