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writes: im 15 and my boyfriend is 24 we have been going out for just over a year, and we had sex without any protection. i know it was a stupid thing to do and now ive just found out im pregnant. what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): i think you should tell your parents and they should be happy to help[
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reader, sexylittleme +, writes (10 August 2006):
first thing i would say is dont worry!!!! i know it seems a silly thing to say but if ya calm things will work out better you need to talk to your boyfriend and ask him if he will stick by you!!! hope all goes well xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2005): hi, i think that you should tell him, if you to had sex without protection and your pregnant you need to get on with life, if you want to keep the baby keep it and speak to your partner about it, you never know he might want a baby but you need to remember that if you dont feel that you would like the baby that you are carrying you must tell someone about it because if you keep it to yourself you make yourself more upset you just need to carm down and think about what you are going to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2005): My story is kind of like this one i am 15 and my boyfriend is 18 and i think i might be pregnant, it was a stupid decision to have sex without any protection. Him and I talked about what if i did get pregnant and he told me he would take me to the place so i could have an abortion, and pretty much just laughed it off, but im really scared i know my parents would be so hurt and i dont know if my boyfriend would stick by me cause he doesnt want to go to jail. So what should i do
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reader, sammi +, writes (25 March 2005):
First things first. Go to your doctor and them that you're pregnant and you need advice on everything. They won't tell your parents as everything is confidential. With you only being 15, they will give you help whatever you decide to do, as that is your desision to make. I'm not here to judge or tell you what to do but I would sugest you have a good think because you still have school to go to. But if you deside to keep it, there are loads of help now for teenage mums, like family allowance and other benefits. Hunni, only you can make this desision!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2005): I think u have to ask yourself if this guy really loves you and would be willing to stick by you? Are you ready for the responsibilites of being a mum? Personally if i was you I would keep the baby no matter what, but that's me and I know my family would be supportive. You also need to think whether it would be fair on the child? Is it going to have a loving family and can you provide that? Good luck, hope everything works out for you!
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A reader, Cathy, writes (2 March 2005): HI! Let me tell you one thing first off. It is not the end of the world. Don't do something now that you will regret later. I was fourteen when I got pregnant with my son by a 21 year old. Make your decision and stick by it. Does the father plan on being there for you? Involve him, and no matter the consequences, tell your parents! Nine times out of ten, they will be your biggest supporters. Its not only your life now. In the future, no matter what your disicion is right now, be responsible. You don't want to do this again. Trust me, I did it twice.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (2 March 2005):
 Hi,First, let me say that I'm sorry you find yourself in this position. You've got a lot of tough choices ahead of you (both).You need to tell your boyfriend about this straightaway, if you haven't already. He's half-financially responsible for this child, and you need to find out immediately whether he intends to stick around and help you raise it, if you choose to have the baby and keep it.You would obviously know that your main options are termination, offering the baby for adoption, or raising it yourself. What you decide should be partly based on what your boyfriend says his feelings are. For example, if he's a professional and ready to settle down with you and have a family for the next 20 or so years, maybe you'll choose to have the baby and raise it, but if he isn't ready to be a Dad, you want to consider that, too. Just for the record, there's very little glamour in being a single mum on the pension.Next people to tell are your parents. They'll be your rock, no matter how badly (or well) they take the news of your pregnancy. Don't underestimate their ability to help and support you and to offer wise advice... after all, didn't they do a reasonable job raising you?Finally, you need to start looking after yourself, particularly if you decide to carry the pregnancy through. Talk to your doctor soonest. However, even if you make the hard decision to terminate this pregnancy, you need to start taking care of your own health... with things like finding reliable contraception for the future! Again, you need to see your doctor soon.Unfortunately, dearie, you aren't in a position where you can put off decisions, so act soon. You're about to get a crash-course in being an adult.Good luck and take care.
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