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I'm 15 and pregnant but I'm afraid that my mom will want nothing to do with me....please help

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Question - (30 March 2008) 47 Answers - (Newest, 13 November 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Okay so im kinda new at this "advice" thing so please take it easy on me........okay so my bf and i have been together for going on 11 months and one week after my birthday on 2-28 i broke my virginity..later we had sex again and started to do it more (unprotected)...i am 15 and my boyfriend is 18 and he says that he wants a family and i really believe he does...soo we used the method of "pulling out" and it was going good until one day i told him that a little got on me but i wasnt sure how much...so we started thinking about having a baby and we started preparing...1 week later we took a test and it came up negative but by then we had already got our hopes up on having a child so instead of getting birth control, like we had planned to do if the test showed up neative, we decided to try again but on purpose this time...so we continued to try and we had sex a few weeks later and instead of pulling out he just "let it out" inside of me..he didnt tell me til i asked him the next day because he wanted it to be a surprise so that when i took the test it came up positive and i would be happy...so as we continue to try we continue to plan...we are now planning on moving in together soon and are expecting a baby.....Here's where the problem comes in at: My mom is a very cool person but for something like this to happen she would just go crazy...we decided to tell her about it when i start showing and when we have the apartment ready....im scared to tell her because the type of person she is she would beat me and put me out...im worried that shes gonna hurt my unborn baby and me. My bf and i are really in love and i can really see myself with him for the rest of my life...but at the same time i really want my mom to be in my childs life because it will be her first grandchild..but im afraid that she wont want anything to do with me or my baby..i just want to know what i should do...should i just get it over with and deal with her not being in my life or should i beg her to just be there..she doesnt have to spend any money on my baby because i know for a fact that she wont but i just want to see my mothers face in the delivery room when i have my baby..i want to hear her tell me and my bf congradulations even if she doesnt mean it..im going to be dying for my mothers love and support even though she will probably be ashamed at me i just want her to be there when that day comes...

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A female reader, Juggalette4Life  United States +, writes (13 November 2010):

Ladies, ladies! What are you girls thinking? I myself am 15, I've helped raise both my brother and sister. It's probably the hardest thing you will have to do in your entire life! It killed me to look at this article and see all of the comments about girls my exact age excited about having babies! Mistakes happen, yes. Must you go through with keeping the baby, no. There are many different options out there. Including giving your baby to somebody not as fortunate as you, who cannot conceive. Yes, this is a hard thing to do, but overall a better decision for the baby, and yourself. You have school to think about, a whole life ahead of you. Things to look forward to, right now is not the time to be having a baby. Especially if you cannot raise the baby without needing your parents 24/7. Think about this: Can you raise the baby alone, without your babies father around, without your parents help. If not, don't have a baby. 99% of the time that is how it always ends up. You make think your in love with your boyfriend, and that you guys are prepared for this HUGE commitment, but guess what; when it gets tough and your boyfriend realizes how hard it is, chances are he is going to be a dead beat dad. Is that how you want to raise your child? Another thing, WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU PERPOUSLY TRY TO HAVE A CHILD?!?!? This is so shocking to me. You girls probably think,"oh, I can do this. It may be a little bit of a struggle, but I can do it." NEWS FLASH: It's more than a little bit of a struggle! It's a life long struggle, trying to raise a child and not having an education! Go to school, get an education, THEN have a baby. I guess good luck to you girls who are having these children at 15. It will be the hardest thing you will ever have to do.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010):

WOW.

I don't know what is more worrying... the fact there are 15 year old girls trying to get pregnant or the fact that a number of people posting here cant spell.

I must add I am a 19 year old male...I just think it more repulsive

I honestly don't know what this new obsession is with having children so young.

I THINK YOU NEED THERAPY...NOT A BABY

To the writer of this original post. I hope every went well. And I hope you get the help you need...and I don't mean my tax dollars.

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A female reader, Julia15 Canada +, writes (3 October 2010):

ok i am sorry i do not want to affend you but this is the scariest thing i have ever read in my life. i am also 15 years old and im 29 weeks pregnant. it happened by accident with my bf of five months. i do not believe in abortion and i looked into adoption but i couldnt let go of my baby girl. even with enough money living in a wealthy family with support i am stressed beyond belief. i see a therapist once a week to deal with the stress. yes i am exited to have a baby but i am also terrified to the fact that i have to give up my life for someone else. i cut myself out of the easy life and a life of being a mother at a very young age. i think it is sick and disgusting to purposly try to have a baby at this age. it is bad enough that you need to tell you parents your pregnant but to tell them you did it on purpose my mom would kick my ass. as for the father of the baby he is hurt that i broke up with him but i need to live my life now without making any more mistakes. i will raise my little girl and love her to death but i would never try to screw up my life on purpose. i think that trying to have a baby at 15 is selfish. your baby deserves 2 married parents who love eachother and who can support him or her. i wouldnt be surprised if your mother couldnt look at you for a while. you purposly messed up your life . GOOD JOB.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010):

Howdy, i'm a 15 year old guy and Ive got three kids already! Let me tell you about what I did to improve there lives I put them in a adoption clinic and me and my girlfriend can visit whenever as long as the children want to see us.. ( they're to young to decide that so the nurse decides for them) but seriously sex can wait... It's not easy but alot of things aren't easy either. Your best bet is to tell your mom. My mom died in a car accident and my dad left home when I was three. Just know that it's never a good thing to do it unprotected! Also, planning to have kids at 15 is like planning to die at 26.... So stop planning for outrageous things to happen!

Joey M.

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A female reader, loveisfantasy123 United States +, writes (20 September 2010):

ohk.. so i've read like all these comments and it makes me happier but also more nervouse at the same time. i'm 15 and juss had a miscarrage. me and my bf were very upset by this and he held me in his arms while i cried and even he shed a tear. We both want a baby and were madly in love with eachother. and i want to have a family with him and so does he. we've talked it over and even though i'm only 15 and he's 16 we're now planning to try to have our kid again. many might call me stupid but i dont care because we've only been together for 4 months but yu know when your in love. and ik we have something special. i'm excited and nervous to be having this baby but its something we both truly want. it shouldnt be up to your parents or friends or who ever its up to yu and your partner. its going to be difficult but i love him and i'm willing to take on a new adventure because he has told me over and over again he will stay by my side not only for the baby but because he loves me. ik my parents will be angry and my father wont want to talk to me but i'm ohk with that. my mom will be mad but she'll come to understand. and my bf's family is backing us up on this decision 100% i feel that the most important thing isnt about what people will say or how they react its about yu and your partner truly wanting this and if yu have many ways to sustain a healthy enviroment for both yu and your baby so if one fails yu have other ways. I want to have my baby and keep it and thats what i plan on doing no matter what people say, do, or think. it my life, my decision. good luck to all of yu and dont listen to others listen to yourself and what yu want.(:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010):

You need to tell your mom! I bet she won't be happy, what parent would be to know that there 15 year old child is with child and on top of that TRYING for a child. You are out of your mind and yes VERY stupid to want a child at your age and should really be looking into adoption so that child has a chance at a good life. To be realistic the boyfriend being there for you forever or even during the full pregnancy is very little at your age. I hope your mom sticks with you and really think of the baby adoption might give them a chance and you a 2ns you have your whole life ahead of you take this as a lesson to clean up your act and achieve a successful future.

I wish you the best of luck and health!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010):

iAm 17. iHad my son

Anthony at 13. Nd now

expecting Twiins(giirls)

All iCan say iS telling ur mom now

iS the wisest decision. Uu tell her to late

nd she will F R E A K O U T! By iF uu

tell her now, she'll freak out still bt be

thnkful uu dnt told her before the

uu started showing. Uu would gain her

respect. Believe me iKno how scared

uu are. Good luck sweetie! ;)

- K R Y S T A L -

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010):

im 15 and have spoken to my boyfriend about the future, recently he has cheated on me and wants to prove that he is truly sorry for what hes done, i have forgiven him and love him immensely. the idea of having a child with him seems wonderfull and i think im going to go ahead with our decision to be young parents. he has a job and i know he can support us, its the baby's future you have to consider and bringing a child into the world means your are also tied to the father for the rest of your life, consider your options and the best outcome for everyone. i wish you all the best x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010):

i think you tell her now, she probably will be suspecting that you are already and shes may be just waiting for you to tell her. i myself am in the same position although im not sure i am pregnant im waiting for my missed period to take a pregnancy test. i know it would be hard and that it would probably break her heart but the only thing that really matters right now is you baby

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010):

hey there. i'm isabella and i'm 16 and have an 8 month old son. i'm in a group of girls on a site called mdjunction.com go there and search for the Teen Pregnancy support group. the girls on there are absolutely helpful and amazing. i think they'll be able to help with a lot of your issues through your pregnancy. best of luck.

isabella.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010):

Im 15 & pregnant with a very supportive boyfriend. Weve been together for 2 years and are very much in love. I lost my virginity to him this year and am now 6 weeks prego. My parents were not happy when i told them (Of Course) but they got over it eventually and now they support me and help me with whatever they can. I didnt plan for this baby

but god gave it to me for a reason.

- A & E

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A female reader, lilmissmummy95 Australia +, writes (7 August 2010):

im in the same position as you, and i am also unsure of what my mother will think, so i cant give any advice.

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A female reader, gma2b United States +, writes (1 August 2010):

I just found out on VACATION that my 15 yr old is pregnant as well. Her father and I have had all the "talks" about sex and protection. It goes to show we can teach our children to make good choices however, when it comes down to making those choices it's entirely up to you guys!

There is no way your body, mind are ready to be a parent. There are many obstacles in your path. If your boyfriend sticks around thats wonderful, I hope that your family is there to support you in this journey. The question is how do you plan on taking care of this child? Are you recieving support through WIC (women infants and children) if it's in your area. I would suggest you get into as many programs you can. In no way is this a joyous time nor should it be a celebration. Your life has been altered in so many ways. And YES i have said the same thing to my daughter. There wont be cheerleading for her or varsiy volleyball, even homecoming is gone. I support her and will always love her, I pray that your family stands by your side. Good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010):

i just turned 15 and i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend about two weeks and a half ago, we were both virgins and well he didnt have protection so i told him to pull out but i felt something in me so im not really sure he did.. im scared my mom wil freak out and well he said he will be there the whole time.. well i have been having some symptoms so im about 90%i may be pregnant

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010):

Hey, Im 15 too and my mom thinks im a virgin. I had sex for the first time when I was on holidays. I really liked the guy but we are not still in touch. I've missed my period and I have some symptoms of pregnancy. He used protection but apparently it doesnt always work? I have no idea what to do and usually I can go to my mom about these things but I REALLY dread even mentioning pregnancy to her. Any advice?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010):

Hi im 15 And i am about 95% sure that i am pregnant me and my ex boyfriend had sexs a couple of weeks ago and he came in me twice i dont know wat to do or wat to tell my parents about this whole situtaion my parents still think i am a virgin if i am not pregnant i plan on not telling them they i thought i was and jst let them think that i am still a virgin but if i am i will jst have to tell them even tho it will be very hard i am very scared becuz i am the third generation and i am most likley to be pregnant with twins if i am

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A female reader, lilmiss mommy United States +, writes (25 July 2010):

Hi Girls,I just turned 35 yesterday. I have a 15 year old daughter that just told me she is Pregnant.WOW!My heart sank I want so much for her,BUT most of all I LOVE HER and even tho it broke my heart and that is not what i wanted to hear from my daughter I was thankful she came to me and knew she could talk to me and i will do everything in my power to help her ..The reason for me saying this is even tho ur mom might be mad or upset hurt alot of emotions will comeup. You need to trust that she loves you and after the shock wears off it will be ok. God Bless all of you .Don't give up it's going to be hard but go to school and do something with ur life. if not for you then ur baby.And remember their are so many wonderful people that are trying to concieve that can't that would be so blessed to be the mommy of ur baby if you choose adoption .it's the best gift u could give ur baby if you can't be a mom right now .

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010):

I'm 14 and I'm pregnant, my birthday is in 4 days, I'm having twins. The father and I tried working things out, never worked out. Your boyfriend sounds like he wants to be there. I hope everything works out between you and your mom. Best thing to do is just tell her, that's how I thought my mom would act but she freaked out and told me I need medicine for the baby( ended up being two) but good luck.

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A female reader, anjealous Canada +, writes (31 May 2010):

I'm sitting in pretty much the same situation! I'm 15 and 95% sure I'm pregnant. I'm not with the father, but when I told him about it he told Me he didn't want anything to do with the child. I am with someone else and he knows I'm pregnant and when I told him he was so happy and even tho its not biologically his he sure is acting like it is.

But how did some of you girls tell your mom?

The other thing is, my mom might think I'm following her steps just because she had Me at 15 years old well 3 months before her 16th birthdays

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010):

I greatly admire your strength to go through something like this. I myself am 16 and had my twins at 15. I wish you all the best with your future family. And just be honest with your mother, things will all work out!

~Lily

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A female reader, MiSS KaT United States +, writes (14 April 2010):

okay....ladies i...wow.....im 16 and getting pregnant is the last thing on my mind.....why are you so excited about this at this age?????!!!!!! I mean at this time life hasn't really started yet and a baby could take up all of your time i I shoud know i became an aunt about a year ago....i love her but damn....i have take care of her partically 24/7 and i have a sport, educational and a romantic life but my niece take up ALL of MY TIME!!!

Well...I guess i dont understand....but i guess you are a caring protective mothers that would do anything for your kid and make sure you spoil them rotten I have to give you props for that.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010):

iv read all the comments made kinda made me feel better, im 15 and i think i myt be pregnant iv missed my period :/.

my mum doesnt know ive had sex yett either, and y bf is ignoring me .

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010):

I am in the same situation! I need some advice but I don't regret being pregnant! Actually im excited! Is it bad that im excited. My fiance is so exited and so are his parents but my parents are so much! Like should I move in with him and his parents? I want him to see his baby as much as possible. I mean we are truly in love!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010):

alright, well im just turning 15. and i toke a text last night and im prago. with a guy that ive been with for only 2 months. and i told him today and hes exited, he told his mom and she said she will help us out. but hears the thing. my mom and dad will ... is going to kill me. so i know ware you are comeing from. and you are not stupid, like the last person just said. . yer far from it and that was you and your bf's choice. no one elses.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010):

A reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008):

I think you are just one stupid young girl...you have your whole life ahead of you and now you just ruined it like the said above I hope your mom takes you back in her home after you have told her good luck.

^ Heyy, you anonymous person.

1.Do not call her stupid. She is far far far from.

2. It takes ALOT of strength to be a mom at 15.

3. I mysel am 15 and pregnant, and she is NOT ruining her life, a baby is an amazing amazing gift.

And dear 15 and pregnant, you have long had your baby by now. And i hope things are going good for you. It takes alot to handle the ups and downs of pregnancy. So i look up to you. (:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010):

heyyyy i am in the same situation....exact same thing we are planning to try again in the next 2 weeks. but my mom is a pastor!!! & my dad used 2 be in government!!! i dont know how to break it to them if i was to become pregnant. me & my hubby have been together for 1yr & 4months now...really in love!!! idk wat to do!

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A female reader, MissCreepyness Romania +, writes (24 March 2010):

Geez ladies,i m really surprised to hear such words nd such hopes from 15 girls...i m 19 nd i m telling u that u have no idea what u are talking about,i had the same desires at your age,i thought i was madly in love with my bf that i had back then,i wanted a kid thinking we would be so happy together and i was anxious how i'd look pregnant,and if my bf would love me even more if he saw me pregnant,that we both get a job nd we'll manage...but it s not that simple,you see,when you'll get to the point when you'll realize that that freedom you have when you are 15 is gone by the time you re 18,and you have to take life in to your own hands and make something with it,you'll think man,that's some big s**t i have to put up with,nd then the main thing you'll want is to do something with your life,and a baby is going to be a choice you'll make very very late,so think twice after you do that,nd i advice you ''do not have a baby!''you have your whole life ahead of you,don t throw it away!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010):

i'm 15 & 6 months pregnant , me & boyfriend couldn't be happier , he said he will stay with me no matter what , we've been together like 3 years anyway :) he has bought the baby such cute clothes , i really can't wait to me him/her :D x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010):

Your exactly like me. I'm 15 and about 5weeks pregnant. It's the scariest thing in the whole world. I told my mom via text message. And i still have yet to break the news to my dad. The Baby's dad is sooo excited and soo happy. My mom wanted me to get an abortion, but I couldn't ever bring myself to do that. but honestly, you should have kinda thought about how you were going to tell your parents before you decided to get pregnant. I hope you have a beautiful healthy baby:) Goood luckk girly.

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A female reader, love6269 United States +, writes (27 December 2009):

I don't know why you would want to get pregnant at the age of 15. Babies are a huge responsibility. Your boyfriend might be ready, but you're still young. You're still in high school and have a lot of growing up to do, unlike your boyfriend who has already finished school and had his share of parties and fun. He's 18, and you could get him in a lot of trouble for rape, because you're 15. I was pregnant at age 15 also, and my babies father was 20. I ended up not keeping it, only because I still had a lot of my life to live. But you need to tell your mom as soon as possible. Yes, she'll be mad. You're 15 years old and pregnant. But most likely, she'll support you eventually. When I told my parents, they didn't want me to keep it and they were really upset with me, but eventually got over it. I'm sure your mom will support what ever decision you make. Just don't drop the bomb on her. Make sure you explain the situation to her and try and give her the news easily.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009):

hi im also 15 and well, im 25 weeks pregnant with a baby girl and when i found out i was pregnant, i thought my mother is going to kill me but all she asked me is: "is your boyfriend the father" so i said yes. i was really shocked but she didnt shout at me or nothing, i couldnt belive how relaxed she was. so, what i want to say is, tell your mother and if she wants to hurt you, go stay with your boyfriend but if she is cool with it, stay with her and finish school. thats what im doing, me and my boyfriend are

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009):

i am 15 and 95% positive that i am pregnet i have every posible sign and i am so scard to tell my mom. and the baby daddy!! my mom was a vergin till she was 21 and doesnt know im not a vergin. baby daddy broke up with me 2 months ago and has a new girlfriend and has no clue im pregnet. how do i figure this out?? can anyone help me and give me some advice???

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2009):

im 15, and im 4 weeks pregnant.

i went to my mom and i was like

"mom im coming to you with this because you have always told me i could, and as my mother i hope you dont look at me differently."

i broke down crying, and i she sat next to me and said "baby girl, whats wrong?"

and i told her, "i think im pregnant. i missed my period. and i dont know mom!"

and shes an alcoholic. so she put her beer down, she only had had one at the time because she had just gotten home from school.

and she ran me up to walgreens bought me 5 tests. they all came back positive and i cried and she smiled along with my step dad whos battling cancer. they keep saying everyday "were going to be grand parents!"

its amazing. your family just might surprise you..

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A female reader, laela United States +, writes (29 November 2009):

Well looking at the original post date it looks like your baby should be about 1 yr old now. So how did all that work out for you? You said you didn't want any financial help from your mom. Did your bf step up and support the two of you? My guess is that people who pay taxes are supporting you and your baby. At 15 your still a immature child. Sure get mad, and then look back on this 15 years from now and see if you think your child is ready to be a parent. Being in love is no reason to have a child. It does not make things magically turn into happily ever after. In most cases it is the exact opposite that happens. You miss out on not only your childhood but also your future, as far as finishing your school and college and becoming a contributing member of society instead of another one or two one medicaid. If there are other teenagers reading this who are considering the same decisions, stop and think about how much more fun you can have with your bf if you don't have a child to take care of 24 hrs a day. Think of your dreams and hopefully your goals.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009):

OMG ur story is deja vu this is exactilly wat is happening with my and my GF, we also dont know wat to do....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009):

im pretty sure this was posted a while back ...but in your case i would have just told my mom that i was pregnant and got it over with....1. you would have felt less insecure and 2. you probably won't regret it in the future and heck she might be there for you...

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A female reader, ima_mommy15 United States +, writes (15 August 2009):

im 15 to and pregnant you can do it baby girl

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A female reader, Eri6523 United States +, writes (12 July 2009):

I'm 17 and pregnant.. and well i'm just going to spit it out. I have to tell mom and she is going to freak. I'm gonna sit her down and tell her that I know it is my responsibility not hers...

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A male reader, randallritchey United States +, writes (12 July 2009):

Okay, so it's been over a year.

What happened? Due share.

Oh and Blakforst. The father isn't automatically going to jail. Some states laws don't apply to the 18 rule.

Like in Missouri.

14 can consent up to 21

17 can consent to anyone.

Any younger than 13 is illegal. Even if it's two minors.

So the father isn't automatically going to jail.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009):

Im 15 and I am pretty sure im pregnant as well. I've showed countless signs and I am having a test when my best friend comes home. I think tellin my mum will be the hardest thing in the world to do. And my dad. They both think im still a virgin... im frightened yet excited at the same time.

Its a very intense feeling. If I am I am going to keep it. Im sure u mum will be supportive. I think mine will. Maybe not tlk to me for a few days. But they will come around. I haven't spoken to the dad since 2 days after the sex. So that's going to be awkward as well.

Ily. Xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thanx...im going to tell her soon

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A female reader, girlnextdoor19592003 United States +, writes (6 April 2008):

girlnextdoor19592003 agony auntYou dont know this yet, but you will when you hold your baby the first time.....Your mother loves you UNCONDITIONALLY....she has made mistakes and so will you. Her initial reaction will not be calm and collected...but if there is one person in your life that you can count on it is your Mother......dont sell her short, but DONT WAIT to tell her, you need her support NOW...and best of luck and ((((((((((big hugs)))))))))))))

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

UPDATE!

I took a pregnacy test Friday April 4 and it said that i AM pregnant....I came on here to get advice and all i got was put-downs from people who thought they knew what they were talking about...seems like they didnt....i didnt ask if this was a good decision i asked for advice on telling my mother and all i got was people calling me stupid lil girl...i thought this site was for advice when you needed it from mature older ones but seems like its just somethin to play on in your spare time

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008):

I think you are just one stupid young girl...you have your whole life ahead of you and now you just ruined it like the said above I hope your mom takes you back in her home after you have told her good luck

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A female reader, xapathyxrebornx United Kingdom +, writes (30 March 2008):

xapathyxrebornx agony auntcongrats for the desired result, you're pregnant, you've obviously made up your mind on whats going to happen now im not gonna lecture you on THAT.

HOWEVER - if you want to get pregnant at 15 that was your choice, now your an adult and with rosponsility EVERYTHING has a consequence, i this case you will start to show and your mum will be pissed off at you. Give her time she will calm, tell her asap cause it will just piss her off more if she feels she is the last to know. x

good luck x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008):

If you think your mother is the type of person to hurt you or your child, then why are you selfishly putting yourself through this?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008):

i guess, some people, are born to be mothers. Maybe you too. But don't you think 15 is abit early? And your bf, sure he's 18. But is he able to hold a stable job to look after the both of you, and the baby, and keep a roof over your head, and feed all of you? Is he able to do that?

Now, you're pregnant. Fantastic. You really want this baby huh? Then, I thin the only thing left to do is to tell your mum. There is nothing you can do that might magically make her nice about the hwole thing. What mother would be happy? You already knew that your mum would kick you out. So why didn't you wait? You just have to tell her. If she keeps you, and be there for you as you want it to, then fine and good. But if she gets mad, and kicks you out, then except it. Cos you knew the consequences.

Either ways, she wouldn't be happy. 15 is no age to get pregnant. No age to have sex either. Do realise that no matter what, your bf is going to jail. That's for sure. Whether you like it or not. It's the law. For an 18 year old, he should have realised that, and waited till you were older. If you two really love each other, you should have waited. Cos after studying, and getting married, you'd have all the time in the world to have a baby.

But, as soon as you start to show, and others find out who the dad is, your bf's going to jail, and you're going to have to start fending for yourself, if your mum kicks you out.

I suggest, you pray really hard that your mum takes you in. I hope you realise the gravitas of the situation that you're in. God bless.

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