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writes: hi im steph, im 15, my mum thinks im "good" she says im not like the "little slappers" i hang round with. she doesnt know i have got a boyfriend and she has already told me if i get a boyfriend older than me or if she finds out i am having sex she will kick me out because im "far too young" .. the thing im trying to say is im pregnant!!My mum has also told me that if i ever get pregnant while im still living at home then she would literally disown me and she is always banging on about how disgusted she is with teenage pregnancy. what am i gonna do!!i have had lots of boyfriends not that i have slept with them all i have slept with 4 people :O and i am now pregnant!! i have got no idea what to do. can anyone help me please i am still with bradley now and i have been with him 6 months and i do love him.pleasee helpp mee!!!
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reader, asmine  +, writes (8 March 2009):
hey um.. i beleve u should tell her tht your preganant .. wut r u doin with boyfriends not just one yo mind should of beeen on school r somethin else besides sex.. u r young and preganant but i can't hate on u cause im 17 tryin to get preganant soonn by my 18th birthday and ive had 9 b/fs in the past but um.. tell her if she kicks u out find somewhere else to go and stay but um.. its yo decision u feel me but u know tht she cant do tht cause your young and unreponsibe in findin another place to go soo she wont kill u ...
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Congratulations!!!!
I'm so happy everything worked out well for you both in the end. Best thing you ever did ~ I bet ~ telling your mum, wasn't it?
What most girls don't realise is ~ that no matter how disappointed their mothers' will be in them, the majority will stick by them, they're not all evil.
Undoubtably their initial reaction is to be utterly, completely and understandably freaked out, and do you blame them?
All mum's and dad's for that matter want the whole 'go to college, then perhaps Uni, get qualifications, a fantastic career, THEN meet their future husband and start a family' thing.
That doesn't happen much nowadays, i'm afraid.
My son was 17 and his girlfriend just 15 when they broke the news to me that she was pregnant. (I was working at a reception desk at the time...surrounded by strangers).
They hadn't told her parents for fear that her dad would kill my son (literally) and in turn, throw her out. (A grandmother, and I wasn't quite 38 yet!!)
After picking myself up of the floor from under my desk, infront of all those people, I congratulated them and told them that she could move in with us ~ if her parents were to kick her out.
It turned out they were not as bad as shed anticipated, (although her father ~ deep down ~ did still want to kill my son).
Unfortunately, they're not together any more, but my grandaughter is now 12... and to me, the most beautiful thing that walked the face of this earth...apart from my 3 grandsons, of course, that my daughter has.
...and we all lived happily ever after.
The End.
Take good care of yourselves and your little treasure.
BigSis
xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey. i havnt been on this website for months but i thought of checking it today. I actually told my mum the day after i posted this question and i guess she was kinda ok with it. yeh i think it was hard for her findin out she was goin to be a nanna but id say she took it preetty well. i told her id lost my virginity to Bradley and he was the only one. (were sitll together now after almost 16 months) she has been very very supportive. she was my birthing partener and she has been here for me! no matter what. ive been through bad times and good times and she has always been there for me to cry on or laugh at. im soo glad i told her though! Bradley has been the best boyfriend in this world!! and Katie-May... well!!... shes a dream! best baby on this planet. shes beautiful 3 thanks for your posts :D xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): you need to tell ur fella tha its all his fault hes the 1 who should pay for the abortion use a condom next time coz we all no there will be a next time an he was probably usin u any way for it forget what the others have said about u 2 lovin each other am a lad an i should no !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): its good your still with bradley does he know your pregnant. you should sit down with your mum and tell her. you should say that she has to accept it and its what you are wanting. she wont disown you she will be upset and will maybe need a bit of time to get her head around things. it sounds good that your still with bradly and it sounds like u both love each other i hope everything goes well and i wish u all the best with your baby....azzer
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): i think i may be pregnant and i m 16. my mum is the same she says she will disown me as well which i think is a bit OTT,
i mean your bringing like a whole new life into the world i think parents should be proud of that.
sit your mum down and tell her have a little cry and explin she might understand, but sadly with my mum she wont!!!! i suppose i had better find a new home ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): well im 15 the same as you and i have gone through the same thing . well im turning 16 soon. but when i was 15 i fell pregnant , and i haad the same situation with my parents. i told them but it was hard they were at first annoyed then they began to understand. have you ever thought of any other options such as obortion the understanding 1 xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): ohhh dude your in a really hard spot!
have you thought of seeing a professional like a counsellor about it and hopefully they can help you.
and if your mum wants to disown you then hey every parent gets angry but if she is when the baby comes out then its a suprise.... and dude i think you need to give it a serious thought and i know its not easy.
call kidshelpline and they might be able to help you out.
please dont rush into things just take it cool and if your mum does kick you out give it a serious thought is she a good mum?
good luck and dont fall down the cliff of sadness.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 June 2007):
 There are loads of things going on with you. If you have slept with 4 boys by the age of 15 then you have developed a really bad way of relating to the opposite sex. One of the consequences of that, unfortunately, is pregnancy. Your mother may say all sorts of things and she maybe disgusted by teenage pregnancy but you are her daughter - she maybe unhappy you are pregnant but as a good parent I bet she will just support you anyway and you won't be homeless! She may rant about it when she finds out as few parents would be overjoyed to learn their daughter is pregnant at 15 but life throws up all sorts of things and as an adult she will learn to deal with it. You should talk to someone about this and what you want to do about the pregnancy - a teacher, an older sibling, a school counsellor. It is very important for your health and the baby to get antenatal care and start taking FOLIC ACID. You were mature enough to have a sexual relationship with your boyfriend and now you are mature enough to face up to the consequences which including telling your mother. In the event that she does kick you out, then go to social services. Under the 1989 Children's Act they have a legal duty to provide you with accommodation and welfare support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): Oh my what a situation you have got into steph.Firstly, you need to speak to someone about it, someone who you trust but who can help, then maybe they can sit down with you as morale support so you can tell your mother, i think her attitude towards teen pregnancy was just to scare you nd that she maybe angry but would want to help regardles of the decision you make,As for sleeping with 4 people at 15, i will just say that i hope you were using contraception, if not i would urge you to in future.To sum up the best advice i could give you is to speak to your mother, decide this together between you,your boyfriend and your mother. Also if you love and him pressuming he loves you, i think there is plenty of time ahead of you to think of having children and that maybe now wouldn't be the best time for both of you as children come with alot of responsibilty in feeding, clothing, caring etc. But i wish you the best of luck, and please post back with further news so we know how your getting on. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): Whilst i do agree with the first answer given and you should try and talk to someone close to your mum i know that at 15 that is an almost impossible thing to do, however if you want to carry on with the pregnancy then you will have to tell her and sooner rather than later. The likelyhood is that she will not disown you or throw you out as you are at the end of the day her daughter and that bond is unbreakable. If you are thinking of terminating the pregancy though this is what happened with my friend. When I was about 15 my friend was pregnant and daren't tell her mum so together we went to the sexual health clinic. Most hospitals have them on certain days where you can go along in confidence and speak to a nurse or doctor (At no point is anyone in that clinic alloweed to to call or talk to anyone about your situation without your permission). they will talk you through the options and from there its up to you. My friend decided to terminate and depending on how far you are it will either be a series of pills or a surgical procedure. It was the hardest decision of my friends life and although she still thinks about it she knows she made the right choice for her. I don't envy your situation and whatever you decide to do good luck.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou pinkgoddess. my boyfriends words where "its ok abe we will get throught this, we are strong" and i was like yeh but im havin a baby he said "i know and i will be there to support you with anything you want 110%"so i think he is ok with it and he is willing to be thre for methanx for the answer xx
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reader, pinkgoddess +, writes (1 June 2007):
Hello StephIs there anyone close to you that you can talk to first like an Aunt or a teacher? You really need to tell your Mum before it gets too into the pregnancy. Hopefully you can tell her with someone you can trust and that can give you support. It will be hard but you will feel so much better when you do. What does your boyfriend think of it all?
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