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writes:My most recent ex boyfriend and I, started dating in November, we broke up the first week of Feb, but we had an on and off relationship into the middle of April.Since we OFFICIALLY called it quits, I have totally felt like I have moved on, but now all of a sudden,(in the past couple of days) I feel incomplete and sad, and I want him back, and I want to hold him and feel him and kiss him, but I can't..While we were 'on and off' I started building a relationship with someone else. I felt like I needed to move on, but that didn't work out either.Earlier on this month, I started building a relationship with someone else, well that didn't work out either.Last weekend, I tried to kiss my best guy friend, and that didn't work out either.I don't know why I crave the attachments, and I always want and need to be with someone. I am envious of my friends who have someone to love, but I seem to have bad luck with it..I don't know how to let go of my ex boyfriend either... everything just seems so out of place. I feel like nobody wants me and I'm not good enough..
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reader, brokeniswear  +, writes (31 May 2009):
your good enough for someone.
beleive me, my boyfriend just broke up with me and ive been trying to help myself but im so lonely im sure we are feeling the same thing. an just think good things. and it he dosnt want you, then your better than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): I think this probably boils down to low self-esteem. You don't think much of yourself, and maybe don't like yourself, and so you try to get that approval, that acceptance, from other people.
Unfortunately, when people leave your life, you are left feeling kind of lost again. I think you need to work on yourself first, building up your self-esteem. When you feel more confident and secure in yourself, it won't matter whether you are in a relationship or not, because you will be feeling okay just as you are.
Try getting more comfortable just being by yourself. Do nice things for yourself, and try to become more at ease in your own company. Think of as many nice things about yourself as you can, or ask friends or family to help.
It is difficult, but I think that if our relationship with ourselves is good, then our relationships with other people will also be good. x
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (31 May 2009):
I dont think its your ex you want really, you just want somebody, you need to understand that you dont need somebody to get far in life, yes its good to have them with you but dont you think its better to wait for the right one rather than going through more lists of "that didnt work out", wait for one thats worth it than just making do with the ones that dont fit. Everbody loves to love someone, loves the feeling that you have somebody but if you crave it too much it takes the shine off the real thing.Youve heard it before im sure but your young, you have so much time, dont waste it fretting on the what i dont have. There is the one out there for you you just havent seen him yet, give it time the perfect life doesnt fall into place for you,you need to go into it with the right frame of mind. Build on your self confidence and dont use people that you know is going to be a no hoper, you just get more hurt, stop the hurt from happening and give it time.
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