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writes:I'm 14 and i feel down. Until about month ago i went through 7 months of depression i turn to self harm. I lost my mates at school and got into fights every day at school, i try to walk away as i do not look for trouble it finds me. With self harm thing i told my mum and "mates" but they did not care. I stop the self harm now but i fell out with most of my mates but i got one good mate and one that i do not see a lot. I like this guy and he's funny, nice and kind. He's my mum's mate son and he do not know but it. The problem is i liked one of my mum's another mate son he was 17 and he was my best mate for 2 years and then 3 weeks ago we fell out as he said some very hurtful things and before that i had feeling for him and he knew and i did kiss him when we were drunk but we were never an item. Our friendship went on after that kiss.His new guy is the same age as me and i think i have feelings for him but do not know if he likes me that way. He's good looking i know i'm not ugly but i'm a bit overweight.please help xxxxx
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (28 August 2007):
 honey im sorry to hear about the depression you undergoed i can empathize with that entirely as i have only recently began to recover from my depression the difference between yours and mine is that i never spoke to anyone about it and as a result of that i still suffer with it sometimes my mum picked up on it though and she talked me through it at your age i imagine your going to be feeling a lot of confusion your hormones are going crazy as you have discovered through your experiances so far to overcome this depression fully or if it ever returns please consult someone about it if you make yourself heard eventually people will listen to you , its a terrible thing when your friends betray you or do not offer you the love and support you need but there are people out there for you who will support you they are just sometimes hard to find try joining some clubs or after school activity groups that share your interests. as regards to this new lad if you like him honey be honest tell him if he doesnt return your feelings then thats ok because life is full of disapointments it is just how you learn from then and what you do with them that will change your life for better or worse if he is truely your friend then he will understand if you start a relationship with him or that other guy then be open about your past and reassure them that you have changed and are no longer self harming. this other guy the 17 year old sounds confusing maybe he does no know what he wants and babie you deserve so much better than that! if he knows that you like him and he is being imature and horrible he doesnt sound very nice if im being honest give him some space leave the ball in his court and i would pursue this other lad age wise it is more sensible and he has alredy proved to be a great friend to you go for it honey dont fear what you havent tried to acomplish "courage is not the absence of fear but rather knowing that something else is more important" i hope this helps you x love x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): I think what u need is someone who has been through the same thing and understands you. Please email me and I can give you my MSN address so we can talk whenever you want to, I can be there for you to get your feelings out whenever you want to. thats if your ok with it =)
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