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26-29,
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writes:Hello :)Okay, long story short, me and my ex broke up about two weeks ago. I have another guy, who I like a lot, but I am not out with him, however he also likes me (please note, he is NOT a rebound, its a very long story.) My ex said first that he wanted to stay friends and he didn't want to stop talking to me, nor did I want to stop talking to him. We went to different schools so I only saw him on the weekends, meaning now we don't even see each other at all. At first it was quite easy and we would talk like we used to, before we started going out, it was quite awkward, but we managed. Then he started being extremely blunt, then he would ignore me for one day, then talk to me happily the next. He would ask me about the guy I currently like and ask me what he was like, and how he likes his ex again. Then he started ignoring me completely, then blocked me on Facebook. Why did he do that when he was the one to say he wanted to stay friends? He's so hot and cold with me, I am completely over him, as is he with me. I know that if I ask him, he would just be stone hearted towards me. Somebody please explain this! Thankyou in advance! :)
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (8 March 2010):
 It can be very hard for some people to remain friends after a relationship. It's impossible to really know what is going on in his head. But he has decided that he wants to completly break contact with you and move on. This might seem quite strange and hurtful to you but its what he needs to do. He might have thought he wanted to remain friends at first but has come to the conclusion that its too hard for him, or that he just wants to cut contact to get on with his life.
Perhaps when some time has passed you will be able to speak to him again and build up a friendship. But for now accept that he needs space to move on. He might be hurting and talking to you brings back feelings. Give it time and focus on the new man in your life.
Good luck :)
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