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writes:Okay, so im 14 and may possibly be pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 7 months now. I've been on birth control for about a year and a half. Although, i stopped taking it 3 weeks ago because I am getting a new prescription. Me and my bf decided no sex until i get my new pills, but something happened. We sorta had a spur the momment type of thing and yeah its put me where i am today. We had the unprotected sex about 3 weeks ago and I am 7 days laate on my period. I know it was a mistake and its stupid since im 14 but i never meant to intentially do this. If i happen to be pregnant i wish to keep the baby with my boyfriend. I am attending a magnet high school for cosmetology and Ill have my hair stylist license once im a junior (16 years old) so i want to finish and graduate school. My boyfriend goes to the same school but fot biomedical. He wishes to finsh also. I know that as a teen mom id have to give up being a teen and set my baby as my number one priority. I have a job and make about 150 a week. I know ill need to do other things but the number one thing on my mind is how to tell my parents? Everything else i know how to become responsible for. So please, a little help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): I won't preach about contraception here - what's done is done. Once you do a test and it is positive (it may not be) tell your parents. There is no easy way - you have to sit them done and prepare them for something they are not going to want to hear. But it will be fine once they have got their heads around it. You need love and support. You are still a child yourself, having a child - this is not ideal. So parental help is vital.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Do a pregnancy test before you get so worked up. Periods can be irregular!
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reader, roperrl1 +, writes (10 December 2010):
hey, if i were you i would first, reherse it witha close friend practice what your going to say. and, maybe choose to tell your most understanding parent.(maybe ur mom) then u guys can talk it over one on one. hope i helped!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 December 2010):
 First things first. Get a pregnancy test. Take it. See what the results are. Teenage menstrual cycles are very irregular.
Come back and post AFTER you've taken the test. Then the next phase of this discussion will be practical not hypothetical. Okay?
Good luck.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 This is the best position you can be in to struggle through this situation. You have already started earning money to take care of your baby and I suspect your parents will help to lessen the worry your parents have, however barely.
Sit your parents down and have your boyfriend there with you for this. Let him have his chance to prove that he is willing to be responsible. If your parents see that neither of you are just careless young children, they will look upon this whole ordeal with less anger. Sit them down and just slowly tell them that something has happened and you need them right now, you need your family to help you because you are scared (assuming you are). Admit to them that sometimes you can be careless but also make it clear that you are willing to take full responsibility. At this point they would have already guessed what you are about to tell them. Just tell them what happened and then tell them that you think you are pregnant and tell them why you think this. They might be angered a little and they might look upon your boyfriend with disgust and hatred and that is when your boyfriend has to tell them that he is willing to be there for her. This is where you both find out just how strongly you feel about each other. Good luck.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): You say "I never ment to intentionally do this"...
If you never ment to, you would not be at this point today. You know you are going to have to face your parents. You should know, they are not going to take is so well.Im not of a religion but i pray that your parents will be there for you.
You are in school and are going for cosmetology, Go for you!Smart girl. That will have to be set aside for time. Your working, you will or might be put on leave and will affect and delay your liscenes for cosmetology.
How to tell your parents.I would not have a clue. But be prepered for the best and worst possible things.
xoxo Good luck
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