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writes:Ok. Im 14. And maybe pregnant. So i have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We are really in love and i know he's the one. My mom and dad both know we are having sex so they put me on the pill and got condoms. So almost a month ago now me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time unprotected and he spermed inside of me knowing i was on pill. well the problem is the next day i found out i took the wrong pill so it was not active to protect me against pregnancy.! i have been feeling alot of the symptoms including urge to pee alot, fatigue, light brown spotting and others. My period is expected any day now. Im really afraid i am pregnant. I even have the feeling that i am. I know my mom would be there. but my dad would just be heart broken all together! i am against abortion. I did not plan on this, i wanted to still have freedom instead of changing diapers. i wanted to go to college and everything. I really NEED advice from anyone it would be awesome to get advice form girls my age going through this. I know im not 100% sure but please give advice as if i am pregnant so i know what i should do. PLEASE HELP!!!
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (1 September 2009):
Calm down, stressing out delays your cycle even more, ask your mother to buy you a pregnancy test and go from there. If you have questions about BC and how to take it ask your mother or your doctor about that. I have had slip-up's, but I took plan B. Usually when you miss a pill and have unprotected sex you're supposed to double up on your pills, the little packet that comes with the pills tells you. The spotting could be because of the BC, I've had that before. But just take a deep breath and relax, whatever happens you will be okay, your parents will support you because they love you. I would also look into the Implanon, it lasts for three years. That might be an option for you.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need  +, writes (1 September 2009):
 Listen, you need to stop jumping to conclusions. I had nearly every pregnancy symptom that existed but it turned out to be pregnancy anxiety, where i was thinking about it so much that my body was reacting to the idea!! By each day i was more and more convinced i was pregnant, every night i gazed through hundreds of websites which displayed the types of symptoms that would occur week-by- week. Tbh even when i had a pregnancy test done and was negative, i assumed it was a false result and when i started my period, i still couldnt come to terms with the fact that i was not pregnant because i was so obsessed with the fact of being so, to an extent where i even started thinking about names and planning my future around having a child. It was completely bizaare!I realised that i took the situation too seriously and researching on the internet isn't a very good idea as the content displayed will completely take over your mind, so i wouldn't advise it! And now that i know i'm not pregnant, most of the symptoms have disappeared, which proves it was all in my head.I can't be certain this is going to be the case for you, as you could be pregnant! But just try and keep your mind off the idea for a few days and see if you still get the symptoms. If you're still uncertain after a week then take a pregnancy test and that will reveal all :)All the best xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Cat's right - Calm down.
just because he climaxed inside of you does not mean you are pregnant. All of the other things do not mean you are pregnant. they can all be caused by many things - oh and you will be a little late this month because of the stress....
So Calm down and wait - you can wait 9 months that is one way, another is to wait until the right time in your cycle and do a pee test. (You will need to get one from the chemist) if that comes up positive - repeat it and go to the doctors. Then a get a blood test to be more sure.
if you are very late i would definitely have a chat with your parents. they sound smart.
Big Hug, Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): First off, calm down. More than likely your spotting is just a sign that your period is on it's way, and all the other symptoms are probably just being manufactured in your mind because you are worried.
I am really sorry for you that you are sexually active at such a young age and that your parents helped it along, maybe they provided the protection after the fact, I don't know. But you are really still a child and children having children has become an epidemic of sorts and it is very sad for young people like yourself to lose their childhoods and their carefree teen years.
Let this be a wake up call to you. You don't have to continue being sexually active. I am sure you think your boyfriend is the ONE and that you love him because having sex with someone bonds the girl to the guy. That is how women are wired biologically. However, men/boys are not hooked up that way. They can very easily seperate sex from love and for a boy of this age, his main motivation in life with girls is to have sex, he has raging hormones.
The likelihood of you ending up married to this guy you met at age 14 is about 1 chance in a billion, so keep that in mind. If you were to fall pregnant he wouldn't stick around, he is just a kid, he can't take care of any of you.
But until you are a week late or so with your period, just calm down. Talk to your parents, they need to be there to support you emotionally, after all they provided the birth control, go ask them what they plan to do if the worst should happen, I am sure that both your parents have thought about this at some length, and they need to be the one to set you straight on what they would do or not do to help you.
Take care and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Hey,
first calm down... you haven't confirmed you are pregnant. Therefore, there is a possibility that you aren't pregnant. I just went through a very similar issue. Sometimes we freak out about a pregnancy, especially after unprotected sex, and this may cause that our period delays and that we start experiencing pregnancy's symptoms but it's all psychological. So please, try to go and get a pregnancy test and get it done. make sure you check the ratings of the product you are gonna buy since some of this products aren't very effective.
If it is positive talk to your mom, and go to a doctor so he will confirm it (since a pregancy test may be wrong)
I know it's hard to be relax when you're facing this type of problems but think that even if you are pregnant you may still study and become a professional. It'll be harder but i'm sure you can do it.
Good luck!!!!
You'll see that everything will be fine.
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reader, countrygal462 +, writes (31 August 2009):
 i know how you fell. i thot i was pregnant awhile ago. but the best thing to do right now, is to not worry alot. added stress will make your period late and it can be confused for pregnancy. i was a week late because i was stressing. my boyfriend was with me all way. have you talked to your boyfriend about it? if you havent, you need to, A.S.A.P. he needs to know whats going on. by the way, how long have you been on the pill? im just wondering bcuz wen i got on the pill, my doctor said they arent fully effective until after the second pack.but if you prgnant, and are against abortion, then there is always the choice of adoption. whether you want it closed or open is up to you. let me know how it all goes. if your period is more than 2 weeks late, talk to someone and tell your bf your concerns.. but like i said, stay calm, dont stress it. im here for you. i know how you feel. let me know how it all goes. Good Luck.
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reader, Ms.Peecup352 +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Hey, just calm down. CALM DOWN, if you stress it will delay your period, I am in your exact same position.The BEST thing to do is chill out, focus on school, and wait until 4 weeks from the day of unprotected sex, then take another home pregnancy test in about 4 days or a week. Since your mom knows about you guys having sex, tell her what happened and ask her to buy you pregnancy tests, if your too scarred then ask a older friend or relative.Good luck to the both of us! PS: you have to chillax for a couple weeks.
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