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writes:Okay so I have been talking to this guy on Snapchat and Instagram he's 17 and lives in America first thing you need to know is he's a boy and I think I've kinda fallen for him. He asked me if I wanted to see his dick and of corse I said no then we agreed that we wouldn't talk about things like that but we would still talk. He's called me pretty and cute ect and our snapchat has the golden heart so we are both each other's best friends out of all the girls he talks to. Anyway my real question is I don't know if he's acting this way with everyone and I don't know what to do... I' kinda want to ask him but I don't want things to go bad but I don't want to feel like this!! Please give me some advice I know he's a boy but he seems genuinely nice towards me and makes me smile and I've told him this when I got upset with him and he was saying not to go!! Please help me and give me advice thank you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2015): Whoa girl! Stop right there with him!
Honey, I'm 16 and trust me... guys that instantly ask you if you wanna see his you know what, drop him! If you stay with him you're gonna make the biggest mistake of your life.
And I know you don't want to hear this but you're still 14!
A 14 year old with a 17 year old, mainly is just trouble.
I dated a guy about a year ago that's 6 years older than me. Long story short, not a good idea. Especially when it's long distance, because you don't know if that person is cheating on you or taking you for a ride. Meaning he's fake. But I guess with a person like that it's bad even if you two are on the same continent.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (29 September 2015):
 The easy way to check on if what he's doing is okay is to ask your parents.
You're being groomed by an online 'friend' who is trying to get you to offer him sexual stuff. You are vulnerable because I have no doubt this is all being done in secret. Right? You haven't told your parents because you know what's happening isn't quite right.
Sorry my dear but this guy is a creepo. Yes, he may seem lovely and nice and you've developed feelings for him but he's after one thing and he's slowly reeling you in.
He no doubt has been doing this with dozens of other girls.
I'm so sorry.
Time to end the relationship by blocking him and 'fessing up to your parents, or another trusted adult.
Best wishes that you get away from this online predator ASAP!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 September 2015):
 If I was your mother or older sister, I'd tell you this. It is NOT OK for him to offer a 14 year old a "wiener pic" here in the US that is actually illegal. It's called distributing porn to a minor. And showing YOU his, at some point he would want YOU to show him yours.... That usually how it goes.
You said no, which show that you are WAY more mature than this 17 year old. Good for you!
IF he offered you (a stranger in another country) a picture of his privates I would presume he does this to more or less EVERY girl he talks to through snapchat/Instagram who he isn't related to.
There are LITERALLY millions of people out there in cyberspace to talk to who aren't trying to show you their wieners.
I'd say block him and learn from this. Just because he is older and nice to you, doesn't mean you can't cut him off and not talk to him. Maybe being blocked by you will be a lesson for him too!
My advice if you still aren't sure that what he is doing is wrong... ASK your mom/dad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2015): Thank you for that Celtic tiger that's what I needed to hear x I needed someone just to put me straight I have blocked him on everything after doing some research into this.i just feel sorry for all the other girls that have to go through with it now as well thank you again x
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (29 September 2015):
 I think deep down you know this boy is no good.
Apart from the legal issues - you being only 14 - he is sexually grooming a minor which in the USA is a BIG deal, and could land him in a lot of trouble.
Also, how do you know he is 17? Have you seen his face? For all you know he could be 50 or 60, and be an internet pedophile.
How did you meet this guy?
IF he asked you to see his privates, chances are he asks everyone that. You are probably one of many, many girls who he is chatting to. He asks, then sees who will bite, and give him what he wants, which is a sexual kick, and will no doubt eventually include asking you to send intimate photos too (which would be illegal, considered to be child porn, and would result in a criminal record and life on the sex offenders register).
You mean nothing to him, and are probably one of hundreds of innocent girls he is grooming, who are all probably thinking the same thing, all hoping he wants to be with them. Don't be naive - this is not reality.
He is only being nice because he wants something - sexual gratification. He doesn't like you for *you* or your personality, and he doesn't want to be your boyfriend.
He KNOWS you are only 14. He KNOWS what he is doing is both wrong and illegal, yet still does it.
My advice is to block him on all the social networks you talk to him on, and move on. For your own safety.
Do you parents know about him? If not, why? Is it because you know he is bad news?
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