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writes: I'm 13 and I keep feeling like I want to have sex with my bf.We've been going out for around 5 months (give or take a bit). We tell each other EVERYTHING and we're best friends.But anyways, all the time I keep feeling like I want to have sex with him. Most of my day and night dreams about him are usualy us having sex, or making out with not very much clothes on!I know all of you guys are going to say "you are way too young to be thinking about this. You should be thinking about just kissing and holding hands!!!"Well, way too late. I've gone pretty far before!I really want to, and I think he might want to too, but I'm still not sure, like I want to really badly, but I'm not sure that if we ever get to that point, that I would want to.pls help
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2006): I RILLY THINK U SHUD WAT UNTILL U ARE 18 COS U MITE GET A DESIS ORSUMTHING MINGIN OR HAVE a baby u dont whot all them pains do u and u miteget a desis and cum rilly ill or have a baby that runs ur life
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2006): ok the anonomus person that comment first.......
THANK YOU!!!!!!!! u really helped me! everything u said was great help!! and everyone is totaly right too..........im letting urges and fantisy mix in with my real life thoughts!
im not really one of those ppl that r into masturbating....
but me and my bf do plenty of things that will keep my urges down! they just build up 'casue i dont see him much over the summer!!
thank everyone sooo much! everyone really helped me! thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2006): Hi, my bf started having sex at 13. he doesnt regret it. However I waited until i was 16 incase I got pregnant, cuz thats the legal age over here, and lo behold, even though we used contraception correctly we somehow managed to conceive my fantastic (but hardwork!) son. Please make up your own mind, but be very very careful on pregnancy, Sexual diseases and your emotions. You only have to read other questions on this site to realise people get accidentally pregnant and ill and regret things every day. Please dont be one of them.
Consider your exact feelings and make sure you wont regret your desicion,
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reader, camille  +, writes (2 July 2006):
 As everyone else has said, don't do it. You will regret it. The fact you said "Well, way too late. I've gone pretty far before!" worries me. It's not a game or competition and no-one's going to respect you for that. In fact, be careful or you'll get a bad reputation for being a slag and then you'll just get boys who want to sleep with you and then dump you. Your feelings are normal for a curious young teenager, but you shouldn't take it further than fantasy. There's no rush, virginity is precious and you may only realise that when it's gone, so hang on until you're emotionally ready and have a bit more maturity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2006): DO NOT DO IT. I am 16 and i could have when i was around your age (14) and i didnt. I waited, and i am so unbelievably grateful i cannot believe it. DONT. Sex is a big thing, and after doing it i still think that 16 is quite a young age, im not even going to say anything about 13! Sex should be something special and like someone already said you cant just do it with each person you go out with. There are so many other things you could do with eachother but sex... omg... just understand... and dont act on these sex urges... PLEASE!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2006): if you think you are old enough to have sex then you are old enough to know that once its done you can not take it back. don't do it! don't do it! don't do it! if you are thinking you are old enough then you are old enough to think about the issues that could arise as a result.
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reader, *lola* +, writes (1 July 2006):
 You and your boyfriend might love each other and care for each other and tell each other everything. But if you have sex at your age you will regret no matter how much you love him. So my advice is don't you'll have plenty of time when you are older.
*lola*
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (1 July 2006):
 You have your own doubts about this, this indicates that you are not yet ready, especially given your age.
It is normal to feel this way at your age, but the best thing to do would probably be learning to masturbate.
At least then, you can have the pleasures without the risks which accompany sex.
Just make sure you think through all your options thoroughly.
Best of luck babe.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (1 July 2006):
 wait until your completely sure or you'll regret it i did....so wait until there no doubt in your mind.
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reader, Angel Wings +, writes (1 July 2006):
 My dear,
At your age you should be concentrating on your studies to furthur your education!
I do not think this is the right move for either of you to make.
Think who is going to look after you while he is out of the picture???
Finish your education before you undertake any more decision making.
Your education above all should be your first priorty (this is your future we are talking about - study hard these days are the best days you will ever encounter...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2006): "You are way too young to be thinking about this. You should be thinking about just kissing and holding hands!!!"There. Feel better? Well, good, because you are too young to have sex. You don't even know exactly what it is that you want, except that you're horny; but hey, that's nothing special! What you feel right now is just 100% normal teenage hormonal attraction. It's your body shaking itself up, pumping out hormones and getting ready to switch on reproductive mode for the next 30 years. You have to get used to feeling this way, and NOT acting on it, because in modern society we don't have sex on streetcorners and on the table at mealtimes, just because we suddenly feel like it. You'll learn that you can be horny and carry on anyway.Exploring sexual activity with your boyfriend isn't all that unusual, but you shouldn't be considering full sex because you don't actually want to have it. Repeat: you're just normal-teenage horny. And there are lots of fun things you can do to take care of that, without risking pregnancy and infections. I don't need to give you a step by step guide. I'm sure you can figure that out yourself. Or get a book.If you're not sure that you want to have sex, and not sure that you won't want to back out if it gets to that point, then you're -- not -- ready -- to -- have -- sex. What you REALLY want is a sexual release, and you can do that by masturbating, either alone or with your boyfriend.Having sexual fantasies is normal. Having a boyfriend is normal. Sex play with said boyfriend is normal. Full-on, penetrative sex at age 13 isn't normal. In fact, it's damned dangerous, because you don't speak of any plans for contraception, or what you'd do if you found yourself pregnant in spite of it.Until you're old enough to address the outcomes of sex, like babies, then you're just not old enough to have it. Oh, the equipment's there and it's functional of course, but guess what? Your BF isn't exactly going to be a super-stud in bed! He's only a kid, too. Typically, young lads last a few seconds to a few minutes, and aren't overly concerned about your pleasure, so you might find that having sex doesn't feel good at all and does nothing to fix your sexual tension.So on top of risking an unplanned pregnancy, you may also find that your first sexual experience is a big disappointing zero that leave you feeling like "That was it?"Stick to what you've been doing. Learn to masturbate so that you can get over the Hornies. Don't have sex though. You'll regret it.
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