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writes:Im a 13yr old girl...and not allowed to date... I have once but my parents dont know about it. Are they just afraid that im growing up. They freaked out when i started my period... I havent had any contact with guy...close enough to touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDad knows im a smart girl and i wouldnt want to do anything wrong. But Its Yakima and people here in town are not the right kind of people. But the guys i know and love...love me too, they're kinda afriad of my dad cuz hes a black belt in taekwondo...atleast to comfront him that they want me as a girlfriend...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt gets soo fusterating cuz i'll be on the xbox talking to my guy friends...2 who i really like. and dad sits there sayn you better not be dating them, he laughs when he says it! Then he'll tell me... want you o find a man that keeps you happy and loved ect ect.....gr...frusterating.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): The good news is teens these days aren't really 'dating' much. They're 'hanging out' in groups. I'm thinking your parents won't mind 'group dating'.
I like what one poster said--she 1st 'got to know' a guy as a friend, nothing more. That's how it should be! When you start labeling your relationships girlfriend/boyfriend, then the DRAMA starts and PROBLEMS begin because teens put PRESSURE on themselves to start Adult Couple Activities (that lead to Adult Problems) Just ENJOY your youth! My daughter wanted to date at 13 too because some of her friends were, but now at 17, she's told me ALOT of regrets and heartache her friends went through...So NOW she's glad we protected her from all that mental anguish...well take care, and if you live 'til 80 and start dating at 16, then that's 64 years of 'dating' smile
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Your parents are doing the right thing by you. 13 is too young to begin dating. I didn't allow my daughters to date until they were 15 and then they could only double date until 17. Safety in numbers sort of thing. It's not that your parents don't want you to grow up it's just that they know the teenage mind and are protecting you from yourself and others. You should derive a great deal of comfort from the fact that you have such caring and loving parents. You are fortunate and should count your blessings, many children are not so lucky.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Not so much afraid of you growing up but afraid that you think you know what you are doing at such a young age... like emporessmystique said, so many young girls end up pregnant and that is probably what they are worried about because your parents know how young boys are! They also worry that you will fall victim to peer pressure and do drugs and drink. Having teenagers is a very worrisome thing because of all the trouble they get into and so often end up pregnant and sometimes dead.
But I can tell you for sure, if you think they are making rules because YOU think they don't want you to grow up, then you still don't understand the adult world of parenting. Parents are usually more afraid that their childern WON'T grow up to be mature responcible adults. LOL
Take things slow and pay attention to your studies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): i had the same problem im 13 now and my parents did the same thing until i just went out and found the right person and we have been together so far for a year but i started acting like he was just a good friend and slowly they got the idea that it might go a it thurther than just friends but dont rush into anything eather if you do want a boyfriend become friends with the boy first.
i will let you in to a funny little secret my dad still dosent know that i started my periods and i started when i was coming up to 12 ha ha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim afraid to bring the subjet up....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I remember being there girl...
It is a scary world out there and your parents know that my mom was a single mom of 4 (3 of us girls)
and was a cop on top of that..... so she knew what was out there I was the type to go and find out myself what there was in this world without my mom than a got smarter and realized she only wants whats best for me and your mom is always your bestfriend go to her talk to her about it and tell her you are ready to show her you are responsible
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I dont blame them, when I have kids I'm not going to allow them to date till their 15. Little kids got so much pressure on them nowdays, why must you allow relationships into the mix as well as the pressure to have sex?
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