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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hey friends! I am unmarried and working in a bank. I have good terms with my manager.He is a big flirt. I have seen many girls pleases him to get hike or promotion.He is married. One day i asked him that why you do all this. How can you touch so many girls. He replied that i don't love any woman. Wife is wife. I just want to enjoy my life. I don't get emotional with any woman. He said i don't force any girl, as i saw you never interested in this i never forced you. But when any girl comes to me and she is ready to please me i have no problem. But i hate girls talking about love , emotions, relationship.He says that i can be with a girl just for 2 h. After that i get bored and leave that girl. When he goes on official tours, there also he finds available girl and sleeps with her. He likes variety. He says he can't spend his night without a girl. He says every male is like this. You don't know your father could also be like this only.He says me you also start living your life like this.After listening to him ,i am depressed. I see every male with this feeling. There is a phobia in my mind, that all men are like this. I am not able to find my life partner as i have lost trust in males. Now i see my father and brother also like him only. I am scared about my future. I think i wll never find a guy who wll love only me. Who wll touch only me.Experienced females and males here please tell me IS it true what he is saying to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Thank Goodness you didn't fall for his sleazy ways. He is the lowest form of man out there. He's on a road that leads to destruction. You have MUCH hope to find a real man. One hint is to see how he treats his mother. Does he love/admire her and treat her with respect? take care dear.
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (8 December 2008):
 This guy basically is a very cold and unemotional person. Probably a narcissist. Most people, men and women are not narcissistic users with no emotions. He lives in a very small world of self involvement.
I agree with the others, pity his sorry ass!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Yes let his wife know that will put and end to this utterly discusting filthy pervert,he is the kind that lets all men down, leaves woman feeling used and then does it over and over again, land him in it he deserves it, stop him before he uses other woman, and yes you can trust men there are plenty of good ones out there just take your time to look a little harder. We men are not all liars and cheats you know we fall in love and get hurt too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I agree not all men a rotten b------s and not all woman are stupid enough to go with men like this, there are plenty off good men out their just choose carefully, men are just as capable off love as there are many who just want sex, he is just one of pigs out there who use woman at least he tells you up front more than a lot would do, both your father and brother may and probably are the most trustworthy loving men out there, do not treat everybody the same as I said some woman are easy and some woman are not all comes down to individuals.As is said pity him he will end up a sad lonely old man LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I have a few questions to ask you.
Why are you on good terms with a manager who is a flirt?He uses girls.So wouldn't you want to keep away from him except for official reasons?
Why are you talking about the sexual conquests of your manager for goodness sake.Its an office environment.Not a bar that you talk about conquests.
Learn to keep your professional work environment separate from your personal environment.You can have friends.But not to the point of talking about their sex lives.Especially if they are of opposite gender.
So based on this question can I say every girl speaks to her manager about his sexual conquests?Doesn't that sound stupid to your own ears?
Similarly all guys or all girls are not bad.Stop generalizing males and females.
There are good guys and bad guys out there.
Firstly I suggest you change the people who you are on "good terms" with .
If you do that,you will come to know that there are men out there who value fidelity as much as we do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Oh sure there are men out there like that - the ones that use women like a babies dummy each night for comfort and feel no emotion. They are sad, empty and lonely deep down and scared of commitment or love so do not allow themselves to feel it. The point is if that suits the women he is with then so be it - maybe they don't mind being used and know 'the deal' so to speak. However these men are thankfully the minority and I've seen many men hurt who have slept with a woman who has had the same approach this guy has - using people. Men have feelings too and you cannot generalise that all men are the same. Some find it easier to not get emotional where sex is concerned. What is important is what YOU want in the future out of a relationship and that is your starting point. If you don't want to be used, or if you want an emotional relationship not just sex then don't go near men like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Pity him, it's obvious he's emotionally retarded and obviously can't feel love. Don't you find that sad?
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reader, katatonik +, writes (8 December 2008):
 He's trying to justify and excuse his own amoral behavior by deceiving you into thinking that all men do this.
Not true. Don't believe him, and don't let this ruin your faith in men. You've found a scumbag, that's for sure, but not all men are the same way. Good luck =]
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reader, tux +, writes (8 December 2008):
 All males are like this as much as all girls sleep with these kind of guys with no attachment.
You are failing to see the other side of this problem.. The girls are willing to pleasure him. Are all girls like that? No.. Just as much as not all guys are like him. Not everyone is a whore or slut.
Bottom line is that you shouldn't be judging all males by the actions of a few of their kind. If i did that for females, I could say the same thing as well..
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