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writes:help,im a 13 year old girl,i no i shouldn't of had sex but i did, and i just hate my self for it , me and my boyfriend had sex on the 15th of july ,and i was due on my period on the 27th of july but have'nt come on and i no im not late because i never had been late since i started which was age 10 , im so scared of asking my mum for help , im a stupid little girl and i just hope im not pregnant , i never thought about using a condom , i thought they were no good and look whats happened now , i really need to no what to do , i no people will just think im dirty because im only 13 but please tell me what i need to do , love emily x
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reader, ashesbaby123  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 well im in your situation too. im 13 and i had sex without a condom and my period is still messed up so i dont get it every month but it still hasnt came yet and im scared im pregnat... im really confused and i dont know wat to do... im especially terrified of my parents.... i need help... plz plz plz send me a private message... just click on my name and send me a message.... im begging u to.... plz! i know that i dont know you but i just want to talk to somebody that can relate to what im going through without passing judgement.... plz send me a message!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): dont worry get a test done and then worry afterwards (this is the truth)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): i think the best thing for you to do is get a home pregnancy test and see what that says. if its possitive then you should talk to your mother as she will help you sort things out
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): Ok well I think you should get a pregnasey test.Its the only way to find out for sure.And if you are pregnant you will have to tell you parents.They will be mad but they will help you get though it.Even if you are pregnant its your fault gor having under age sex.Im 13 and I still play with dolls.I havent even reached puberty yet.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 oh sweetheart. you are not dirty!! you made a mistake..one that alot of girls make. you are mature enough to know this and are aware of the consequences. have you told your boyf? you need to get yourself either to your doc or to the chemist and get a pregnancy test. once you take this you will know for sure and can move on in the decision process. i think if it happens that you are pregnant, you need to tell your mu. like everyone else has said she will be angry - but only because you are her baby and she wants the best for you. she is your mum so she will help you in every way she can and im sure she will support whatever decision you make. you are not and will not be alone in this hun. just get that test so you can know for sure. email me if you need someone to listen. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): PS: If you feel brave enough, you can tell your mum. She loves you, she will be angry, but she will understand. She gave birth to you, she loves you very much. If you are hurting, she will hurt to. Your her baby, her precious girl, she would cut off her right arm to keep you safe. So don't be afraid, go and talk to her, she will be your best friend and help sort everything out so you don't have to be alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Hi Emily,
Thanks for getting in touch. Thanks for being so honest about your feelings at the moment. This was very brave of you. It's a strong woman who can admit when things go wrong.. :)
You present as aged 13 (underage) and currently living in the UK. You have had sex, and you now regret it. OK babes, no lectures from me. These things happen. You made a mistake, it can't be taken back, so go easy on yourself ok. Your not the only one who has made this mistake. Please stop hating yourself, you need to feel proud of being able to admit a mistake and trying to get advice to sort it out. Your mother would be angry if she knew, but she'd be more angry, hurt and sad if she knew you were feeling so bad. Your family and friends love you, they would hate to know your scared, ashamed and alone. So brighten up Emily. Lets see if we can work together and sort this out, ok... I want you to wear a big smile, because hopefully nothing bad will happen to you. :)
Your not dirty, your clean. Sex dosen't make you dirty. You weren't a prostitute, you didn't sell yourself round town. You are just a young girl who went to far with her boyfriend. As I said, these things happen.
Anyway.. Your body is still growing, periods can play up at any time. They haven't settled down yet. Stress and worry can also play games with your body and make you miss periods, but we can't be sure. I wish you had contacted us before, there was a pill that you could take after sex to protect you against pregnancy. Ah well, to late now. But no problem...
The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They have special services for teenagers in the UK and are able to provide advice and support.
Give these people a call, and do it today. Please don't worry any more. But you need to see a doctor right away. You could be pregnant, and you are too young to deal with that. Call the NHS. They will understand, your not the only young girl that is in trouble. They have set up special services just to help you out. Tell them what you told us, they will be able to help you, so don't worry. They know your underage, and will try to protect you from people finding out about this thing. PLEASE EMILY, CALL THE DOCTOR'S TODAY.
Lecture time.... YOU ALWAYS USE A CONDOM. It protects against pregnancy and disease. I don't know if your guy was a virgin, but you need to see a doctor if he wasn't because you could have picked up an infection... Lecture over.
Don't worry, contact the doctors today, and come straight back, update your situation and tell us how you got on. Big, big hugs Emily. You have been very brave. Go and see your doctor and then tell us what happened. Don't worry, everything will work out fine. Blessings
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Dear Sweet Emily, you have done the deed so there is no going back on that, what you need to do is go and see a doctor or do a home pregnancy test.... If the test is positive, you must then tell your parents, there are decisions to be made which could affect your whole life. Emily please mail me back if you would like to talk further.
Honeygirl
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