A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:HeyaIm really worried, everytime my boyfriends pokes me my clit and surroundings get sore and inflamed!! Why is this? it hurts for about a day after.Ahhhh!Please help me!Thankyou!!! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Oh, stop it cowgirl. :)
Yeah, Eyes is correct. He needs to be gentle, whether it be fondling or intercourse. That is a tender area down there. It might look like a tiny penis to a guy, but he can't beat it around like one. Even too much pressure from a tongue can be uncomfortable for her. And it is too easy to be way too rough with a finger.
Tell him to use very little pressure, regardless of what he is using. Maybe a little more when you are ready to orgasm, but only a little. Show him by doing it yourself so that he can see what is the correct way to do it so that you enjoy it and don't get sore. Also as Diovan said, use some K-Y or Astroglide lube. We prefer K-Y Silk. It is very slippery. Too much friction can be as uncomfortable as too much pressure.
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 I guess it doesn't matter, the key is gentleness.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Hey, not true. She's a good girl. They haven't gone so far, they're just having fun, but he's doing it wrong and so he's hurting her. Not everyone has your finesse and skill, troubletoomuch, to make the ladies happy and leave them smiling and asking for more... :)
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Diovan, I'm guessing that by poking her, she means having intercourse.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2008): Misswendlemoot, has given you the reason and she's also given you the solution to your problem. Teenage boys are stupid, so use lubrication and show him what pleases you. They think your clit is a dick, they don't realise it's a delicate flower that needs a gentle touch.... Why is he poking you, that must hurt like hell. Tell him it hurts and ask him to be gentle and slow.
...............................
A
female
reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Because teenage boys have no idea what they are doing.
Have him get some lube and put that on and have him rub very gently.
...............................
|
