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anonymous
writes:Soo me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years. Im 13 if that matters. I've given him blowjobs and hand jobs and I've let him finger me, eat me out, fist me, stick things into my butt and penetrate me in my butt. But now he wants to have sex. And im not sure if im ready. I scared it will hurt. Will it hurt more than fisting or him sticking things in my vagina? Also he doesn't use condoms and i'll have to get some kind of birth control if he do have sex right?Plez answer.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 You did the right thing to break up with him.
You deserve to be treated respectfully.
Of course you can write to use anytime and talk to us. :)
Kind regards
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): There's no way this guy loves you! You have been violated in everyway imaginable! I am sorry that you haven't had someone there to protect you from everything that you have been through! Life goes wrong for us sometimes, and somehow it's gone terribly wrong for you! Only God will be able to heal your hurts and pains. You have to trust the fact that God is in control of every situation, and he will see you this. Get away from this guy! He's obviously been abused himself and there will be no end to your abuse unless you get help! I have a feeling this guy is an adult and your afraid! There is help for you! Don't spend one more minute in this very sad and degrading situation!!! God loves you! You are a beautiful princess in his eyes!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): lol i think you're ready, just use a condom.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (27 December 2008):
My goodness, I hope this post is fake.
Here is a hard and fast rule: If he won't use a condom, dump his ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): POSSIBLE UPDATE FROM ORIGINAL POSTER... It may not appear highlighted to you...
Soo im taking evryone of your adive.
Im breaking up wit him.
Im getting counseling and getting help.
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wish me luck
If you need any help and support, or just would like somebody to talk to, the aunts and uncles at Dear Cupid are here, we don't know who you are, and have no way to find you. You can contact any of the named aunts and uncles on this board, including me, if you want to talk in private.
I wish you luck honeypie, thank you for coming back and telling us what is going on with you. Good luck, blessings. Keep in touch if you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): I think most of us are agreed, this is either a fake post, or a serious case of sexual abuse and trauma. If your listening, and your actually doing these things, it is very, very important that you talk to someone. Something is going very wrong in your life, there are very few girls of your age or younger that actually act like this.
Correction: You are having penetrative sex, a lot of penetrative sex. It is best not to continue doing these things, and it's is not a good idea to have vaginal/penis intercourse... I don't even know how to describe it now.
I don't like your guy, he dose these things to you, and you can't even ask him to use a condom. There are dangers from anal and oral sex too. You can still catch Aids/HIV, hepatitis, herpes amongst other things by the things he is already doing. Unless this guy and yourself were virgins, you may already have caught a sexual disease, even though you show no symptoms yet. Again, please take the advice given, go and see a doctor, go talk to someone, and find some better hobbies apart from having wild sex. What is happening to you is abuse, and I fear for your safety and what he may next ask you to do when you both get bored of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Soo im taking evryone of your adive.
Im breaking up wit him.
Im getting counseling and getting help.
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wish me luck
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (27 December 2008):
Diovan, I could be wrong but I think this girl badly needs a father figure.
I'll never forget what my drama teacher said about girls who engage in sexually risky behavior. Girls whose fathers cherish them, who instill a feeling of being special, who treat them like their little princess, don't allow boys to take advantage of them sexually because they know that they deserve better.
The girls that engage in sexual behavior, sadly, are often the girls who have never had a father to love and cherish them. They don't think they are worthy of better treatment (they're wrong) and they want to be accepted so badly, to fill a void.
This was not my case, thankfully, but I understand why a girl would feel that way. :)
She needs to get involved with a youth group and at least she would have a pastor or a priest as a role model. :)
I don't mean to proselytize but it would do her a world of good.
Felices fiestas :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): are u insane!? Im 15 and i know how much pressure it is to have sex in our soceity but u should respect urself enough to not do any of those things. DONT HAVE SEX! Just simply dont do it. You'll regret it. Your too young to be emotionally and sexually involved with him. If you had sexual trauma when u were a kid talk to someone and stop this distructive behavior. Just listen to what everyone below me has to say and stop. It's bad for you. It's a form of self injury. Just stop, get help, and tell ur bf. To go jack of to porn if he's so into it. Im scared for you.
Much love manny
Take care, hope u do the right thing!
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reader, Miami Ad-Vice  +, writes (27 December 2008):
I really feel for you, regardless of how mature you think you think you are, you will look back on your life and completely regret the choices you have made. You are having under age sexual experiences. That is rape and child abuse. You have been used to satisfy the urges of a pervert who has used you like a sex doll.
It sounds like your being groomed for prostitution.Get help. Get to a doctor. You are gonna need a lifetime of counselling!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): How old is your boyfriend, is he your age 13-15 or older? Who wanted to do anal sex, you or him. Who suggested sticking things in every open hole you possess, you or him? Who suggested fisting you, you or him? Where are your parents when you do these things? Did anal sex hurt? Have you received pleasure from all these sex things, and sticking things into you, are you having any fun doing all of these things?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Babes, the list of things that you have let this guy do to your body surprises me... you've done more things than I have, and I'm 39years old.. Well you know it all now.. No surprises from now on.
Your already having sex, all these things are sexual... Your a sexually active little girl. No surprises from now on. Penetrative sex, won't be much different from anything your doing now. I would tell you not to have penetrative sex, but somehow I don't think you will listen. I would also suggest that you always use a condom to prevent against pregnancy and sexual disease, but why bother. Your a sexually mature girl, I'm the innocent one here. You know more than me, so why should you listen to me or to anyone else.
Wow.. that's a lot.. fisting, sucking, eating, sex objects, anal activities... wow... as experienced as any porn queen... Don't have penetrative sex, but I can't give you a reason why. If this guy has already fisted you, I don't think his little dick is gonna hurt you that much. I suggest you see a doctor to talk about contraception and your need to experiment with wild sex at such a young age....
Wow.. I wonder what your gonna do next year and for the rest of your life, seeing as you seemed to already done nearly everything that you can that involves sex. Everything else will probably be a little bit boring from now on. I wonder where and what you will be doing when you reach my grand old age of 39.. Good luck, go and speak to a doctor.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (27 December 2008):
I feel bad for you because I worry that you might be bored and don't have anything fun to do. Blue Angel is right, you need to be enjoying your youth. Life is too short to rush to be grown up.
What are some activities you could enjoy? It doesn't have to cost loads of money. Perhaps you could play soccer or join the drama club, for example. Perhaps there is a youth group at church that would like to have you. A sport or activity would be something wholesome for you to enjoy, and there are so many things available for young people. Enjoy your life, don't let your youth pass you by.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (27 December 2008):
 Oh HON! Please stop this before you really get hurt! Having sex isn't all it's made out to be. At your age you should be enjoying your YOUTH, don't let it slip away from you. I was married at 16 due to some pretty rotten circumstances.I was almost 17 and still a virgin. My daughter had her first child 4 months shy of her 16th. Our lives were forever changed. Once sexually involved you really are no longer an innocent child. You are no longer as free to choose. Sometimes it leads you into things you wish you hadn't gone thru.
Only YOU can stop this. Your boyfriend should never penetrate you with anything! You can get baterial infections,tears in your vaginal opening or inside. You can develope all sorts of problems. It could lead to surgery, or prevent you from every carrying a child of your own.
Being too sexual at such an early age by engageing in intercourse can ruin your self-image and your life. Think twice and then again before you follow thru with this. Being a Virgin is no crime, it's a Blessing! Please save yourself for the man you marry and Please don't let him violate you again. Any sexual experiences that you have now will follow you for the rest of your life. I am assuming you and your b/f are not well experienced to use some of the methods he has with you. This should be stopped at once to prevent injury and not to scare you but it could lead to death. You could have a punctered intestine or uterus,etc and you could hemmorage to death. Remember that you can also get serious infections by going from the anus to the vaginal canal. Ecoli is deadly and is spread from the bacteria from fecal matter.
It's best to refrain from sex until you are older and wiser. Don't let your desires cause you to loose yourself. If he doens't see things the way you do should you stop then it's best to leave him alone. I don't know how old he is but hon you are so young. I have a 13 year old granddaughter and I hope my post helps to prevent you from
causing yourself harm, physically, emotionally or mentally. It seems to me in some sort of way he could be using you to gratify his needs, but if it's just inexperience the things he has been doing to you is harmful and SHOULD BE STOPPED IMMEDIATELY~
The things you have been doing for him gives him what he wants and he violates you with whatever it around. SEX anal or vaginal, shouldn't even have been considered at your age, especially using things that weren't intended. REST YOUR MIND and GIVE YOUR TROUBLE'S to GOD ask that HE SUSTAINS YOU from these things. Pray that HE gives you someone who will take better care of you and not rush you to give up your YOUTH because one day you surely WILL REGRET it.
I hope you don't but if you do PLEASE protect yourself against pregnancy and USE CONDOMS every time. Remember that not all the time pills, etc stop pregnancy.....and not all the time do condoms protect completely. Sometimes they break or tear,or slip. They do nothing for you if you are the one giving the guy pleasures. It really is best to stop and reconsider. If you have a trusted adult you can talk to, I suggest you start there. Perhaps they can open your eyes and save you from a lifetime of pain, starting now.
God BLESS.
BLUE_ANGEL
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Christ almighty girl - you've done everything else that there is to do - why not???
Actually, you are one seriously out-of control-kid. Why are you letting this perv do all this shit to you? Ask yourself what happened to your childhood?
I just hope this is just another spoof posting.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (26 December 2008):
Don't do it!!!!
You'll look back and wish and wish you hadn't done it. At 13, you are way too young to be experimenting with sex.
The worst possible thing that you can do is to have unprotected sex. Having sex right now, period, is a mistake... but I beg you, use a condom if and when you have sex. Birth control will lower (note I said lower) the risk that you'll get pregnant, but ONLY condoms will prevent STDS and HIV.
The only way to guarantee that you won't get sick through sex is to be abstinent.
You're only 13, and have your whole life to have sex. Tell your boyfriend that you're not ready. If he loves you then he'll understand.
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