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writes:I'm 13 and my boyfriend and i tried making-out for the first time. It was my first time making-out with anyone ever. when we started i thought it was gross then i just got up and walked away. I know that was stupid of me and i shouldnt have done that but now and again i get the urge to make out with him but hes never around.whats wrong with me. Is this normal the first time you do it? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): Well,I think everyone is different because I had my first "make-out"at 13 and i found it...well enjoyable.But,I think perhaps you really didn't like the guy?Or you just were not ready...either way,you are not weird and more power to you for having the guts to walk away!
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reader, Skittles:-) +, writes (14 June 2009):
Yes its normal to think making out is gross!!!Actually what you did was great it takes a lot of courage to just walk away...and it doesn't make you a bad kisser it just means you weren't ready yet.Tell him how you feel and apologize and explain to him why you walked away.Good Luck!!!!!!!!!
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reader, miyavp +, writes (24 March 2009):
I remeber my first kiss it was a couple of months ago actually it was on friday the 13th the day before valentines (it was my present ^-^) anyway i'v never made out before either but i wouldent find it gross just think of it as a way of becoming closer to your boyfreind. Any tell him your sorry and you were nervous and shyly ask him if you could try it again. Trust me guys luv it when girls admit that they messed up they think its so cute. And he will probubly say ok and agree to try again. Good Luck ^-^
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Get this - the first time I made out with a guy was when I was 17. Personally...I had always thought that 13 was too young, and I know that when I was 13 I thought that the very idea of sticking my tongue in someone else's mouth was absolutely revolting! (Now it is a different story.)
Contrary to popular belief, the first kiss is not always this magical explosion that suddenly reveals all secrets of romance forever and all time. Sometimes it really is just a kiss.
It may be that you just need to get adjusted to the idea of what you're doing. It may be that you're not actually attracted to your guy and are dating him for the sake of dating, in order to be able to say "I am someone's girlfriend." It may be that he is a terrible kisser, and it may be that you need to be a little older before you try again - I know what that sounds like, so please don't take offense.
One of the many reasons the teenage years are so difficult is because of the mental changes that are taking place along with all those physical ones. You hear of your friends 'doing things' with their BFs and GFs, and think 'Now why can't I do that? Is there something wrong with me?' There is nothing wrong with you. Nothing. Nada. Zip. These are the years in which you will learn that your best friend cannot tell you what to do, that your boyfriend cannot tell you what to do, and that ONLY YOU can tell you what to do. You do what feels right - if making out doesn't feel right, then don't do it yet.
And if it makes you feel any better, my first makeout session was also his first makeout session, so neither of us had any idea what we were supposed to be doing, and it was pretty awkward...but we are still together, and the kisses are now amazing. Hang in there, and good luck to you!
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 It is normal to think it's completely gross the first time. Doesn't make you a bad kisser or anything. It's just a new experience that your body is unsure of how to take. I'm sure your second time wont be so gross.
Try and talk to the guy and apologise to him for just walking away. Say you freaked because it was your first time or something. I'm sure he'll understand :)
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reader, duce00 +, writes (27 August 2007):
 I remember my first kiss...wow what a sloppy train wreck that was!
Kissing is incredibly enjoyable for both parties once you get the hang of it. If he is sloppy or crazy with the tongue its no good.
Dont feel ashamed for walking away. It was probably a good move at that point. Both of you need to take it a little easy and slow. In time you will both get the hang of it and if he is a considerate guy he will listen to you. Us guys need advice and input on what we are doing sometimes, I know I did. You need to guide him occasionally and this will be true for most any "getting to know you" type contact you ever have. Most men want to please theyre woman and you simply need to help him a little. Kissing is an art and I dont think anybody gets it right from the very start, take it easy and dont rush.
Oh and PS!! Kissing is one thing but be wary of it leading you to sex. Hes probably going to run that one by you if you do alot of kissing so be prepared to say where you draw the line.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (27 August 2007):
I remember my first kiss...wow what a sloppy train wreck that was!
Kissing is incredibly enjoyable for both parties once you get the hang of it. If he is sloppy or crazy with the tongue its no good.
Dont feel ashamed for walking away. It was probably a good move at that point. Both of you need to take it a little easy and slow. In time you will both get the hang of it and if he is a considerate guy he will listen to you. Us guys need advice and input on what we are doing sometimes, I know I did. You need to guide him occasionally and this will be true for most any "getting to know you" type contact you ever have. Most men want to please theyre woman and you simply need to help him a little. Kissing is an art and I dont think anybody gets it right from the very start, take it easy and dont rush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Don't worry, it's completely normal to be grossed out by making out. I don't know who invented it, but think about it, it's completely unnatural. I'm married and still a little grossed out by making out. I love that you got up and walked away. What did your boyfriend do when you did that? I think you get the urge to kiss him again because it was new and different, and who doesn't like the attention? It's okay if you think it is gross, you'll probably keep doing it anyway. I know I did. Either you'll get over how you feel about it, or you'll learn to not care. I hope I was of some help to you, hun. Good luck and take care!
-RJGirl
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