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writes: Hey guys!I'm new to this site if u havent noticed and i've stumbled on a certain problem on which i need help with.....You see my age is 12(almost 13!!!!)and i'm in 7th grade.I've been goin out with this certain person(we'll name him muffin 4 now) for almost a year ,well we've been on and off a couple times,but that doesnt really matter does it?!?!Anyways we've only kissed and hugged once yes once and i really want to be more serious with him not i really wanna get in your pants feeling but just closer.....Yes i know i'm only 12 but i really think i'm inlove with 'muffin'.....What should i do?Should i tell him i want to be in a more serious relationship?or How can i get us more close to one another?I really dont want to be a sappy gushy girlfriend but i wanna be more close with my boyfriend.....Please give sum advice....THANK YOU Reply to this Question
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reader, Johnthebomb  +, writes (21 December 2010):
Well, ask him on a date to the movies or something like that and talk Yo him. I know it might seem a little stupid at first but it could really help to get in a conversation with him about this problem and tell him how you feel and ask him his opinion about it. Even though I'm a boy, that's what I would do if I were you. Try this and see if it helps and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): [sigh] So ask your bf more questions to show your appreciation for him - eg: "I noticed you've been quiet lately. Is there something on your mind?" or [pulls out sometihng yummy] "Look, I made you something you like to eat!"
Then of course, the other things like just spending more time together and chilling together, ask each other stuff about what he wants to do when he grows up, which college he thinks about joining, ask about his dreams and what he wants to achieve, etc.
Being in love is more than just a word. It's about being great friends, great lovers, and great partners.
[laughs] Dr. Jackal, Mr. Hyde? Hardly. Just giving you two sides of the same story... 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): This isn't a problem you have Curious. This is something that just takes time - TIME, and of course, EFFORT. If you don't know what you have to do, then that means not enough TIME and EFFORT have been made to realize what a relationship is about.
U can't just say, "I want to get more serious" and suddenly become more serious. Think about it - a relationship's meaningful existence is about connection through [drum roll] TIME and EFFORT. Even things like knowing what each other's potentials are, each other's goals in life, what each person is capable of now and later, how you and him fit in together gradually through the weeks, months, years, decades, etc - EVERYTHING takes TIME AND EFFORT.
Have I made it clear enough? Or you want some sugar coated words like "Aww, just spend more time together" - yeah no... Mhm.
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reader, playbunny206 +, writes (14 September 2006):
First things first you are both only young and there will be plenty of time in the future to get close. there is more to a relationship that just getting intimate. Why not just stick to kissing a cuddles? you're only young once so just enjoy it and the time will come when you get older. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): Ok heres the thing...youre both kids. Girls mature WAY earlier than boys, so they think more on the lines like "relationships" and such. I'm telling you, this boy is thinking about video games, having fun, and hanging out with his friend. He's not even thinking on the lines of relationships or even wanting one, he's most likely thinking that having a girlfriend is nice, but hangning out with the guys are better. Going off and on like you say, should have given you that clue. He likes you and thats why he keeps wanting you as a girlfriend, but he doesnt want some girl who is going to hold him back from what he wants to do. Guys dont mature fully untill they are at least in their 20's and they arent ready for relationships untill they are far into their 20's. Now some guys are different and mature faster, but some 12 or 13 year old boy IS NOT! Youre not a kid forever, take advantage of it while you still can and go have a girls night sleepover.
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reader, CuRiOuS... +, writes (14 September 2006):
CuRiOuS... is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI DONT WANNA SLEEP WITH MUFFIN!
I just want 2 find out how to get me n him 2 be closer i said NOT in a i really wanna get in ur pants feeling.Now can u really help me with my prob?
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