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writes:I've made plans to go see my LD boyfriend, and I'm going to be staying with him for 2 weeks.Here's the thing. His plans to buy a new apartment fell through, so he's had to move back in with his parents for a short while. Nothing permanent, but he's going to be living there when I go visit him. I said I would stay in a hotel because I don't want to intrude on his parents, but they're having none of that. So for two weeks I am going to be staying at his parents house I met them briefly three years ago, but we don't know each other at all. I'm so nervous!I'm just nervous I guess because I don't know his parents or younger sister (who lives there too), and I'll be spending 2 weeks with them in such close quarters. I'll be sleeping in one of their beds, using their shower, eating their food, doing my laundry there...etc. It probably sounds stupid but I'm afraid it's going to be awkward and uncomfortable. Every time I try to say I'll stay in a hotel, either he or his mom will completely throw away that idea. His parents just won't allow it (I feel like they're MY parents ) And I don't want to be rude or disrespectful by not agreeing to stay with them.I don't know, the first time meeting parents is always a big deal, but when you're going to be staying at their house for 2 weeks the pressure is really on!Any tips or ANYTHING at all that can make this less awkward and possibly make them like me???? Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (18 February 2007):
 His parents sound lovely! I wish I was accepted by my ex boyfriend's parents as you are by these people who don't even know you! Make an effort to be smiley and chatty and maybe take them a present to show how much you appreciate them letting you stay. First impressions are important but I'm sure you'll shine!
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reader, Carina  +, writes (18 February 2007):
 His parents sound like very nice people and they're probably just as nervous about meeting you! Two weeks is a while but after the first couple of days you'll fit into the routine of how they do things and soon relax. Have you told your boyfriend how you're feeling? Confide in him so that he can give you some support. I would also tell his parents that you're very nervous shortly after you arrive. I'm certain they'll be sympathetic and warm towards you. Be yourself! There's no point in pretending anything, although obviously be careful not to voice any very strong opinions on anything until you know more about them. You don't want to upset anyone! The best way to get on with new people is to ask them about themselves and to be a good listener. Ask his mother questions about your boyfriend growing up. She'll love to talk about that! A general rule when staying with people is to be as observant as you can. Notice how they do things and try to be helpful and tactful. Take your lead from them....and above all: relax. They're just human beings like the rest of us. Best of luck!
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