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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I and my ex were going out for about three years in half…at the beginning when we first started going out, I wasn’t giving our relationship my all because of what happened with my prior relationship. My ex put it all in the line for me. She would literally do anything for me; it was like love at first sight. But we would still have fights, like over stupid little things….but my only bad habit was every time we would get into fights I would go out and talk to other girls (but never the intention of doing anything with them.) the reason I do that is because I know she was a VERY jealous person and I did it just to mess with her on some ways. (Immature I know) I mean no relationship is perfect. But anyways this girl would go out of her ways for me. Like paying my car when I didn’t have a job, paying for food, buying me shoes and clothes, do nice things for my birthday and stuff…I would do the same for her like paying for her books every semester, letting her borrow money and stuff but at less of an effort from me I guess. We moved in together and everything was going great the first couple months until she started hanging out with her new friends and everything just changes. She would rather hangout with them now instead of me and she said it was because I never wanted to go out with her. Which I thought was BS because we were on a tight budget and we couldn’t afford to go on all the vacation we used too but we would still do movies and nice dine out sometimes. But our relationship was never dull. She would go out and not come home till 2, 3 in the morning and I used to get mad cause she would never call. I really didn’t have a problem with her going out but I had a problem with the people she was hanging out with and I also thought it was kina disrespectful for her to show up home at 2, 3 am when she had a man at home. So I got all lonely on the weekends, I was always home alone. One day I made this nice dinner for her, clean up the house and had the wine ready and was ready to make love to her that night but she never showed up till 2: AM that day. So since I was always lonely at home, I got mad one day and wanted to get back at her so I started talking to this other girl in the process of making my ex mad. Well she found out about it and kicked me out the house. We didn’t talk for like 3months but she would call me block (unrestricted) so we started talking again and was taking things slow until we got into another fight and didn’t talk for a week. After that EVERYTHNG changed. I started thinking about all the stuff that she used to do for me and realized that this girl is the one for me and I should try talking to her again. I came clean and confessed to her and told why I did what I did and I’m sorry for doing that. I mean I pour my heart out to this girl. I was literally like a wild dog chasing a dead meat. I told her just give it one more chances and I can work things out. found out that there is another guy in the mix. how I win her back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): It's going to be hard to get her back, but if you feel that you really and truly want her back, you'll do whatever you can. You have to give it time. After all that happened any girl would be spectacle and wouldn't want to give in so easily. You also should express to her what upset you when yall were in the relationship. The late nights, the disrespectfulness, and everything that led to you making the choice you did. Of course do not attack her with this and don't make it sound like everything that happened was her fault. Just use it as an explanation and show her how her actions upset you. She still has feelings for you, but it will take a lot longer to get things back to the way they were. You have to show her that she is the only girl that you want to be around. Look back to when your relationship was the best and take some of those qualities and try to remind her of how good it was. Another thing, don't focus on what she would give you or what you would give you, that might make the relationship look a little materialistic, but focus on the thoughtfulness of the actions. I can't tell you exactly what to do to win her back, but there are some ideas. The sweet dinner idea that you had from earlier would definitely help. BUT this time make sure you invite her to hang out or something and then surprise her. Don't want a repeated let down. You don't need money to make a girl happy and to show the sincerity of your feelings. Just having a movie night or a cute walk at a park can win over a girl. Be creative and don't give up!! As cheesy as it is, if it's meant to be it will happen. I wish you the best of luck!!
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