A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm just wondering. What if you're in a relationship and your partner tells you that they love you but you don't feel the same way at least not yet. Do you be honest with them about how you feel or do you lie and say I love you back so they won't feel bad?
View related questions:
I love you Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 February 2010):
 This is a serious matter and you should tell your partner the truth . Be honest and please don't joke.
It is unwise and unethical to play with other people's emotions.
A
male
reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (26 February 2010):
 Yes you tell the truth, and you set the person free to find love with someone that will appreciate them.
That is the ethical thing to do.
-Frank Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Overall, be honest but in a gentle way.
In the meantime you could throw some of these out:
You could tell them that you want to tell them in a more special way so they're going to have to wait.
Or you could play it as a joke and say 'I'll tell you when I love you when you least expect it' or I'll tell you when you deserve it.
...............................
A
female
reader, Ria1  +, writes (25 February 2010):
I don't think you should say it back, if you don't feel it! Every time he says it just say something like 'that's cute' or 'Awww' if he starts to question why your not saying it back, just explain, you don't feel the same quite yet,and your not going lie bout how you feel! My friends partner told her, within a week of knowing, her and she kept saying it back even though she wasn't sure!
...............................
A
female
reader, jc82 +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Tell the truth with kindness I think. I had a friend who was in this situation, and her boyfriend had to wait two months before she was really ready to tell him that she loved him, but they were together for four years, four great years, in the end. Saying "I love you" is important and should only be said with sincerity. Your partner might have hurt feelings at first, but just reassure them that you are on your way to saying it, and that you have strong positive feelings, but you want to be totally sincere when giving the gift of "I love you".
...............................
|
