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reader, penelopepitstop  +, writes (21 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the question the biological father has actually had a good few hints that the baby is his, once when preg he denied it saying no way we were careful etc.. then again in a brief 30 min meeting where he seen the baby and again hints were made that he could be the dad..the baby is very much like him at a year old and for him to not see this is just denial, anyway months have passed and no contact from him so he's had his chance to have contact with his son..saying that i dont know how that would have worked out but the chance was given to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Decieving a man about the paternity of the child he is raising is very wrong.
If men had any decent parental rights in the court system then lying mothers would be spending years in prison over it.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 What are the blood types involved? Sometimes that is a dead give away. Also what if there is a genetic medical condition so parentage is important? This isn't the kind of secret you can take to the grave anymore.
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (15 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes eyeswideopen nooneis any the wiser would telling anyone the truth ever be a good idea?
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
 I am not female so I could not do such a thing but I feel that what you are doing a great injustice to all involved. Both men and the child.I can`t say I`ve never cheated,but I never kept it a secret.This is to damaging a secret to keep.Of course there is a good chance your man will leave you when the truth comes out.If I truly loved someone and she told me she cheated I might be able to forgive her.If I found out any other way I would drop her in a heart beat.Plus this will gnaw at you until you let it out.So yes I think you should tell everyone involved.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 July 2009):
How can you keep having a baby a secret? Do you mean you are passing off as your husband/boyfriend's baby when it's not?
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reader, sammi star +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Keeping a secret like this to yourself will only be damaging to everyone invoved.
There will come a day when the child will want to know his/her father and then what would you do?
Brief fling or not this man has a right to know if he's fathered a child. To keep it from him would be completely unfair.
And yes, I personally would confide in a good friend because in this kind of situation surrounding yourself with support will be just what you need. Good luck hun x
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