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writes:One for the men....I was in a 'relationship' with a non committal man. It would seem that i care about him more than he does about me, and he says he cant get into a serious relationship, so we decided not to see each other any more. At this stage, I m finding this hard to accept. Has anyone been in this situation? If you leave someone alone do they realise what they ve lost? I m clutching at straws, I know, but just on a psychological level, do men want you when you stop showing them that you want them? any thoughts welcome, thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hi there,
I can relate to this because i am in the exact same situation as you are. My ex was non commital too, she is a very selfish person and we have been dating for 1.5 years. She would always put herself before the relationship. She broke off with me so that she could enjoy life (I never stopped her from doing so anyway). I have been treating her like queen for the past 1.5 years and she was very ungrateful for that and she does not feel regretful at all for breaking up with me. She's moving on and having fun hitting clubs & casinos every week. But i believe that time will heal. I will be patiently waiting, when she finally does some growing up and when she's mature for a relationship, she will regret for what she has done especially when she starts comparing me to her other bf's. I was her first love after all too. So hang in there, i have been moving on making myself a better person & taking up new activities. Turning all that negative energy i have towards her into a positive motivational energy for my activities. Once you put this to practice, you'll start to forget about your ex slowly and when they see that you have moved on well in the future without their help, they will regret big time.
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Well, let's put it this way--my ex and I were married 26 years. He cheated on me off and on throughout our marriage. When I finally realized I had fallen out of love with him and moved out, he stalked me for 3 months and threatened my boyfriend. YES, I'd say they do realize the loss of a 'good thing' when it happens. It's a slap in the face. Our daughter recently told me that her father would go out 'shopping' every week for a whole year and spend $200-300 at Walmart every time he went, just to try to make himself feel better. (they do crazy things, don't they?) So, the answer is YES. HIS LOSS, Dear. Gena
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reader, Jmo +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Coming from a "non committal" girl (who doesn't let on) the fact that he stated he didn't want a relationship means just that. He's either too immature for a real relationship or truly doesn't want one. You can't change that. And if you play the waiting game you're only going to hurt yourself by wasting your time.
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