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writes: Do adults still need their parents love and support once they're married and have kids? My daughter recently got married and is pregnant. Am I still needed in her life? We have a pretty close relationship, but I can't help but feel as if I'm going to be replaced by the husband and kid. Do you guys, or girls, who are married with kids, still love and need your parents? Do you still want them or enjoy having them in your life? I'm her father by the way. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2006): No question about it..you will always be needed in her life, dear but in a different way. I personally think it is wonderful when family members continue to love, support and encourage their adult children, but a parent need to know when to step back, as well. Sometimes, patterns of dependence can run too deep and can tend to undermine the unity, intimacy and cooperative work needed by a husband and wife to sustain healthy family life. Parents do NOT want to be in the middle of their adult child's marriage. Your role will be still a guiding light in her life, but her emotional needs will be more and more fulfilled by her husband and baby, now. With a new baby on the way, she will has have committments and big responsibilities. It's a time, that one has to step back and let go. Soon, you will be "grandpa" and what a wonderful role that is. As parents get busier, grandparents are increasingly important influences in the lives of their grandchildren. Who better to pass on family history, traditions and your wonderful wisdom? Enjoy your new role...and best of luck.
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reader, mystify +, writes (9 January 2006):
 you shouldnt feel replaced, lots of people like to see it as gaining a son/grandchild etc...
in fact when i got married and had kids my relationship with my father improved, now he has me calling him and my husband calling him for advice and stuff, and i just love to see my husband and my father bonding, and my my kids just love thier grandad and are always asking for him!
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