A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello im really sad right now. I feel lost and confused. One of my good friends is behaving very strangly with me and i dont think theres a good reason behind it.If it was a constant pattern of behaviour i might be able to figure it out easier but its not he's forever changing.When we all go out One minute/day he may sit down and speak to us all fine such as just ask what i;ve been up to. However mostly he doesnt, he just walks in and speaks to the others perfectly fine. He will just ask them about work or something or what they have been up to just as you would any friend....but me...no!If i speak to him he will answer in a normal manor but then very rarely does he say anything else.He acts really strangly and im not the only one thats noticed.When we go out he's so weird to the point where its getting ridiculously stupid as if he's got a serious problem with me or hes scared of me or something.He wont sit with me by choice, he will sit with the others even if he has to sit in the smallest space, leaving me on my own. He will just speak to the others like you would any mate and he;ll have a good time with them. he'll mess around with them whether they are guys or girl. (Heres the best bit, he hasnt even known them that long. They were my mates from school and I invited him out so we could all get along as friends)Also something that really hurt me was when we all went into a club obviously we wait for each other but i just spoke to him and he just gave me a one word answer but he was forever...well shall i say more bothered about what the others were doing and as soon as they were ready he just walked off with them talking away as usual. I was with them but it wouldnt hurt for him to do that with me would it?But he wont with me. if we are left alone we barely speak. he may say one or two words but it usually something totally pointless and he wont continue the conversation. Infact he seems more bothered about where the others are.I would say i feel like he doesnt wanna spend anytime with me alone however after a night out we have sat there talking in the freezing cold and also on an occasion a while back the others couldn;t stay out and he asked me to stay with him. We started messing around just playfighting and he started cuddling me which i thought was just being friendly but he was just holding me tighter and tighter, and where he was holding me and everything, where he was touching me was just all so loving. Also one night i asked him to come out and he said " yh defo if you are". Why say that and then not wanna spend time with me?Hes a decent guy though doesnt use people, people have commented on that hes shy around me but hes not with anyone else. And tbh hes not always shy around me, as i say hes just really weird around me and i dont know why. problem is he wont talk about stuff either so i can't talk to him about it. i really need some advice on how to improve things. Any help? What do you think could be the reason for all this?
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (19 May 2010):
 Sounds to me like a young guy who feels awkward and doesn't know how to act with you. I'd say he has a crush on you, sweetie.
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